Is it normal for a boyfriends best friend to call and text you

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Ok, I met this guy last summer. We hit it off, talked, texted and hung out. We developed strong feelings for eachother, and expressed them. We started dating and then he met my friend and they liked eachother and they kept in touch. Things kinda cooled off between us, although we were still friends. After a couple of months, he came back to me wanting to hang out again. I guess him and my friend didn't click like we did. Anyways, through out all of this his best friend starts calling and texting me..I'm so confused. I don't mind being friends with his best friend, but I feel a tad awkward about it, since we expressed feelings for eachother, and I'm assuming his friend is just being friendly and desires nothing more..but it feels strange. Does anyone have advice or imput about being friends with ex boyfriends or boyfriends best friends and how that may impact things? I still like this guy a lot, and am hoping we will get to seriously date...

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  • CaptainObvious
    13 years ago

    Rape is a bad thing, watch out.

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    • regisphilbin
      8 years ago

      lol

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  • amberinboston
    14 years ago

    Bazwell-Thanks soooo much for the advice. I loved how you worded it.
    Excellent.
    A little extra info is the "ex" and I never had sex. And my friend didn't have sex with him either. But we did become emotionally intimate. Sharing, talking, dating...
    I take things very slow in the sexual department and we both agreed to that.
    I think he's confused as to what he really wants, but I can tell he still has feelings for me and if so, I want a second chance..
    The friend seems platonic but he calls and texts almost every day and tells me about his day etc...
    I'm a very friendly person and I love people so sometimes I think there is confusion as to exactly what type of relationship is transpiring...
    Thanks for the advice.

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    If you are holding out hope that you can have a relationship with the ex in the future, then I would strongly suggest that you minimize the interactions with his friend. I would also suggest that you begin setting things in motion so that you and your ex can get a clearer picture of the trajectory of your relationship.

    The fact that your ex got involved (the extent of this is very relevant) with your friend is sketchy. If he and her were working towards a serious long-term relationship, then that is far less (but still a bit) shady, but if they were just hooking up, then they are both suspect and you should be careful in interactions with both!

    If you begin developing an attraction to the friend of your ex, or you suspect that he does for you, I suggest you take some time to think seriously about how you would like to proceed with either of the relationships because whatever you do, there would be consequences to deal with.

    Best of luck to you!

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