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My dad lost his job in january and has been unable to find a job. I've been supporting my parents since and it gets hard sometimes. Its overwhelming I pay all the bills, my boyfriend helps but I've been having issues with him as well. I have no life. But I love them and I'm really hoping my dad finds a job soon so I can resume my life and goals.
It's what you have to do. Just do your thing and dream big, so big that it will scare you:)
You are probably doing the right thing, but I believe that you must set limits and be clear with them that you cannot continue to do this. If you do, you may hurt your future and you will never achieve financial independence and neither will the.
Unfortunately it's normal, eventough it shouldn't be. But I'd do the same for my parents without even thinking about it.
I do the same. It's not normal, but what can you do? I figure my parents supported me when I couldn't take care of myself, now that they need help I return the favor. It can definitely be difficult, and I don't have much of a social life either, but it probably won't be permanent.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. He is getting a job and in training for construction work so things are turning up, my dad had been going through depression cause he couldn't find a job and had to rely on me, I guess he felt bad, but he's doing better now. It's just in time for christmas in a couple months, cause my whole family is expecting gifts and I have a big family. I do have a big heart for my family, I'm always the one who gets them all together. I know things will get better.
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First of all she is not selfish at all, because:
A. She is supporting her parents and not leaving them on the street.
B. Her parents chose to have her, not the other way around.it is selfish of a parent to expect their kid to 'pay them back.' It was their job as parents to take care of their kid.
At this point in her life she should be working on herself. Getting her together. And having fun.
All she is asking, is is it normal.
But yes if an adult child is able to financially help their parents they should. No one should leave family out to dry.
To OP:
Talk with your parents and see if there is anything they can do to help you. It is very sweet of you and your boyfriend to help them! I hope all goes well with your family, and relationship with your boyfriend.
God Bless You and Yours.
Times are pretty tough for so many in this world right now. What a shame you don't see this as an opportunity to repay your parents for the hard work and care giving they gave you growing up. So many couldn't help even if they wanted to.
You sound like a very selfish girl, to me.
youre amazing, i cant even support myself and im a guy (not much of one granted)