Is it normal for a 25yr old to be in love with a 12 year old?
I have a friend, A who has a 12-year old sister,N.
A has a friend, R whom i've never met. And both A and R has been friends for a very long while.
A tells me that R is interested in N. It wasn't gradual? Out of the blue R just likes N. A and our mutual friends think it absolutely ridiculous for R to be pursuing a relationship with a girl as young as N, despite R's claims of loving her and believing that they're meant to be together. R is 25, you see. And if N were 18 or older, we wouldn't have minded a relationship blossoming between the two. But she's 12, for godssakes!
A lives abroad, so he's unable to constantly monitor N (she hasn't the privilege to use to net but she is addicted to her cellphone). A tells me that his parents are aware. Their mom has called R and told him off. And she'd be calling the police if this keeps up.
We've confronted N about it. She seemed to understand what is up and has agreed to not communicate with him whatsoever.
A has tried convincing R to forget 'dating' N. And just recently, we found out that R has been texting N asking to meet up. And all of us are at out wit's end. We aren't entirely sure what is going on now. With N seeming to give her word that she cut all ties with him, we thought R would give up. We all doubt she's been ignoring him, from how he's still in her contact list and by how he's still texting her. Talking to him is just as good as standing underneath marquee lights that says 'come get me'. And we very well can't tie her up and put her in a box, or can we?
All of us are still trying to figure out the next step. I have discussed with A and our mutual friends that I'd give R a Hosenka treatment when I see him. A hopes I won't break combo.
What would you do?