Is it normal for a 12 year old to still sleep with her parents?

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I am a mother of two, one 12 year old girl, and one 15 year old boy. My 15 year old son sleeps in his room perfectly fine, he has no trouble what so ever. But my 12 year old daughter on the other hand doesn't. She has been sleeping with me since she was a baby..... her father and I got divorced when she was about 11, but before that he had to sleep in the guest room because she slept in bed with me. Now just to tell you to make sure you don't think this, NO, the divorce was not because she was sleeping with me and not him... it was because of other personal reasons. Anyways, when she was around 8 years old we got her to sleep in her room for about a week, and then she started sleeping in my room again. Whenever I push her really hard into sleeping in her own room she does for a little while, but then eventually she comes back into my room. Now I know your probably going to say, " Well just keep pushing her until she sleeps in her own room forever." But I don't want her to go weeks without sleeping because I won't let her... I don't know about you but I couldn't put my child though that. She has no problems sleeping over at friends houses, or having her friends sleep over here ( they sleep in her room perfectly fine). And when she is at her dad's house and spends the night, her brother and her both share a room and have beds on each side of the room and she sleeps fine.... so its not really that she HAS to sleep with ME its just she doesn't like to sleep alone.... I've already tried the "make their room how they want it" method but that didn't work, please give advice :)

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago

    lock her out of your room

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Your daughter is playing you like a fiddle!

    You have already said she can sleep perfectly well at other people's homes, and usually it's a problem sleeping in a strange bed. It seems that she is too possessive of you and in order for you to help her grow up and mature, you do need her to sleep on her own. She needs to learn to let go of you - and you of her too!

    How could you ever have a new relationship with her beside you all the time ;o)

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    So,your goal is to push her to sleep by herself no problem cause you don't think it's right for her to always have to sleep with someone.
    Probably her problem is:she doesn't feel safe enough sleeping on her own.She needs somebody to sleep with her cause otherwise she feels like someone is gonna attack her in her sleep.
    I don't see anything wrong with it but if it really bothers you,try using another trick.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Your daughter is too possessive of you. I have a male cousin who is currently 11, his parents are happily married but he has a strong dependence over his mother. We went camping last week, and in the middle of the night, he left the tent we were sleeping in and walked into the trailer my mom and aunt were sleeping in to sleep with his mother. The bottom line is this: obviously your daughter has some security issues. You also may not be a very strict parent. I would advise talking with her about why she is so dependent on you and why she needs to sleep with you. You need to talk to her about this. It may not be a problem now, but as time progresses, your daughter might be dealing with a social disorder. I hope I helped.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Get your daughter counseling. She has a problem sleeping alone. This problem began when you first even allowed her to sleep in the room with you. You let her run you instead of you as the parent running her. She's used to it. Its now become a habit. A bad one. She needs a counselor, or for you to really lay down the law once and for all.

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  • Littlesparklejumpropequeen.
    12 years ago

    I think its normal, I used to sleep inbetween my grandparents (they brought me up) maybe your daughter is just lonley and wants the company. Speak to her and ask her, its probably harmless and she will probably grow out of it. If she doesn't however that's when their will be a problem.

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  • nelfdrood
    12 years ago

    12 is way too old to be still be wanting to sleep in your bed with you.. Maybe buy her a comfy new bed that she'll like better than yours. =P

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  • mom564
    12 years ago

    Thank you all so much for all the advice so far :) I will definitely take it into consideration.

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  • memysecrets
    8 years ago

    My mom caught me wearing lingerie now she buys it for me

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  • memysecrets
    8 years ago

    My mom once caught me crossdressing and a vibrator down my panties.later that nite she came to my room and ask so you like wearing womens clothing i said yes.she let her gown fall open an put my hand on her tit and zaid i wont tell yr father but come to my room after he goes to work.so i did.i went in an she had clothes layyed oout on bed and said ok now you will watch how i drdss an do same...i was in sexy lace lingerie silk stockings suspenders long skirt and blouse she have me a vibrator to put down front of my panties.when it came late afternoon mom went for showsr then in her room and called me,she was naked on bed.so you like crossdressing now.i said yes then she pulled me to her lifted my skirt an got my cock an sucked it then said she wont tell if i fucked her,now i dress up every day and we enjoy sex

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  • memysecrets
    8 years ago

    My daughter was 11 pretty grown up.dressed in hot clothes.she had 12c size breast.my boyfreind would sneak a look at her.one nite during a bad storm she came an got into our bed,she was wearing a little pink lace nitie.i feel asleep.after a few hrs i thought i felt bed shaking an went back to sleep.i awoke about 4 am and notice my daughters nitie pulled up and her breast expised.i went back to sleep.i got up about 9 went to kitchen and herd noisess like moans,i walked outside to shed and walked in and caught my boyfreind fucking my daughter and he was wearing my lingerie.he called im cumming in you,i said stop no.he looked and you could see he was exploding inside her.he got off i said how long have you been fucking my daughter and wearing my lingerie and clothes he said 10 mths,i said did you do her in our bed last nite i said yes,he said he fucks heer before and after school

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