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I am 21-years-old and I have a major crush on this 16-year-old boy. We're close friends right now and I know I'd have to wait a while for us to have a relationship. I'm not really even sure that he likes me back. This is actually the exact same age difference my parents have and my mom is older. Am I sick?
Gender roles don't matter, but you might want to wait at least a couple years to start dating, if you don't lose touch. Age matters less as you get older.
I feel you. I'm about to turn 19, and I'm in love with a 15 year girl. Unfortanatly, the feeling isn't mutual. It's never mutual.
as long as its genuine and u dont just wanna get in her pants then i dont see a problem with do both have a mutual friend that know both of you pretty good that maybe you could talk to about it get some advice from someone who knows both of you but i really dont see any problems with it just take the relation ship slow and easy dont jump right into the sex or any thing like that... u know what im sayin
The original poster is an older girl who likes a younger guy, just saying.
lol who cares i dont even read half of these things just a quick skim throw in my opinion and then move on thats funny i dont know how i missed that one
It does matter because an older guy who dates a younger teenage girl is generally not acceptable. The older girl dating a younger teenage guy, however, is treated differently. It shouldn't be, but it is and it's a double standard. That's why I pointed that out to you.
ahhhh very intresting never thought of it that wzy usually its older guy younger girl i just assumed ha
Yeah. I know that. I'm not stupid. I wouldn't even consider it until he was of age. Did you think that through before you commented?
I respect that you are the original poster of this story, but my comment wasn't even directed at you. I wasn't suggesting anyone was stupid, I was simply pointing out a double standard and a misunderstanding that might have changed the opinion of the commenter that I was replying to.
You're getting defensive and lashing out at me is completely unnecessary and unwarranted.
I can tell by your comments why you would be interested in a boy lol, your brain hasn't developed past 8th grade. You're a fucking creep and you should find someone your own age.
I'd suggest waiting at least two years before dating him...
Socially acceptable dating range is (1/2 your age plus 7) or older:
(21/2) + 7 = 17.5 [he's 16]
(22/2) + 7 = 18 [17]
(23/2) + 7 = 18.5 [18]
Sick? No.
But seriously, just what do you two have in common at these ages? He's in high school, and you are? What could you both have to discuss when you are together?
He's just beginning to grow up physically and emotionally and you are way past all that (unless you're slow). By the time he graduates college, you'll be 30ish. what are you going to do for all those years? Who's going to support who?
I don't think you've thought this through. This is not anything like the world your parents grew up in, so that is not a good gauge of what's best, now.
But as you said, it's just a crush, and they fade away in short order.
So I'm an idiot for not knowing your parents grew up in the 80's? How kind of you to see it that way.
25 years ago it WAS definitely a different world. If nothing else, graduating from college with a degree pretty much meant a decent job, a reasonably good income and a pretty good chance of moving up the ladder. None of that is a given today, which puts a whole lot more pressure on young relationships. 9/11 hadn't happened and most Americans felt pretty safe at home. Children weren't being slaughtered in school with any regularity and you could go to a movie without wondering if you'll end up in a hospital or morgue. I'd say the our world has changed considerably!
Anyway, good luck and may you have a more Christian attitude toward your fellow man in this holiday season.
Don't you dare tell me to have a more Christian attitude. That is not your right. You have no idea who I am.
I am only taking my cue from YOUR words. If you present yourself as you have, calling me am idiot for not knowing when your parents grew up, then I can assume, by your unChristian words, that that IS who you are.
Anyway, I don't really give a shit, either way, and if my opinion isn't to your liking, then ignore it, delete it or continue to berate me, for whatever reason you are doing so. Bye, bye, now.
If this was a guy asking this same question about a 16 year old girl there would be a lot more hate within the answers in the comments left. I find that funny as hell.
You're not "sick". Use common sense and don't act upon those feelings until he's of a legally consenting age (whatever that is in your area).