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Is it normal for a 44 year old man to only hang out with kids and teenagers, he thinks that adults are "boring", this really creeps me out, as he acts as if he is their age( 11-17), should I report him?
The initial reaction is to scream "pedophile" but there are cases of people who just like a particular kid or kids, maybe they never had their own kids or maybe they see themselves in the kid.
Id pay attention and watch for signs but unless there is a real reason to think something weird is going on, Id not do anything.
Report him for hanging out with young people?
I don't see any reason to report him if he is not harming or bothering someone else.
Is he creepy, or is it the fact that he hangs out with young people you find creepy?
I hung out with an old hippie in his fourties when i was in highschool. He got me and my friends drunk and high all the time and drove us to music festivals. He was gay, but never did anything creepy toward us youngins. All in all a good friend that I will remember forever. I guess my point is that this is something that has to be judged on a case by case basis.
My little brother used to hang out with someone around that age. He was our neighbor and a very crafty man. Sailed, hunted, had bows, guns, and so on. My brother would always go over to his and the guy would teach him things about sailing, building, and so on. My brother used to always love going over to his because he learned new things.
Sure it can be creepy for an older guy to hang around with younger people around that age but sometimes it can be a great thing. He played a somewhat fatherly role for my brother and he was a stand up guy.
Not enough information. Who is hanging around where and with whom? Did he tell YOU that talking with adults is boring or was this second hand information.
If an older guy is working on his house, car or bike and kids are hanging around and talking with him; then he might just be giving the kids some face time with an adult.
If he is actually doing stuff for the kids without their parents knowledge and consent; then he is creating emotional leverage. Maybe harmless, maybe not.
the person I know has always hung out with little boys as young as 11 years old, and he is obsessed with an 18 year old boy who has been his "special friend" since the boy was 11 years old, he also has saved phone messages from when this 18 year old was a kid. In addition there is a 15 year old boy who he is always giving stuff to and asking him to spend the night with him. He got mad at me because I refuse to hang out with kids I am 43 years old
That is very creepy. A red flag. You should've included this in your post. I think you should report him. This doesn't sound normal at all. I remember reading somewhere that there are two types of molesters. One of which, is immature and prefers to be in the company of youngsters more so than that of their own age group, claiming that they better understand them or something like that.
he actually said I was boring to be around, and that he prefers the kids to be with him, he gets overexcited when he goes anywhere there is a lot of little boys too
That is kind of creepy. There's a Skateshop in my state and the owner reminds me of this guy in your post. There were always kids there and the owner really creeped me out. He gave off a scary and unsettling vibe. I'd say report him but, only if you know beyond a doubt that anything untoward is going on. If you want, tell the parents. They may or may not know that this person is hanging out with their children. I'm sure that they will take it from there.
If you've got more to go I think anything like a police report (for what exactly?) would be premature. But it wouldn't hurt to talk a couple of teens he hangs out with and make sure he isn't bothering them.
It's normal. I'm socially much younger than I am and get along with teenagers, but I have been fortunate to make friends with other socially immature adults.
As long as he understands the moral boundaries there should be nothing to worry about.
I do remember when I was a kid there was a weird pedophile who lived in a nearby junk yard and tried to hang out with all the teens and get them drunk. One of my friends beat him with a baseball bat when he showed up at his trailer.
It's shouldn't be too hard to find out whose a pedo and who is just immature. Just ask the kids what they think about him because they will know.
Another problem that can happen is drugs.
Kids are great targets for drug dealers, or even a loser drug addict who have no adult friends to do drugs with.
I remember another man from when I was a teen. He was in his 30's and while I don't believe he was a pedo, he did share his meth with 14-18 year old kids and got some of them hooked. He would also encourage them to steal from their families so they could pawn stuff for beer and drugs.
While kids will usually willingly rat out the pedo, they wont always tell you who supplies drugs, but anybody who is supplying hard drugs to kids is probably so drugged out that it is obvious they are high.
If you can rule out the sex and drugs, they are most likely fine.
I don't know about reporting him, unless you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is something inappropriate going on, but alerting the parents of these children wouldn't be out of the question. It's pretty much up to the parents to decide who they want their kids hanging out with.
It depends what he talks about around the kids and how he behaves himself around them. But he should at least know the parents of the kids.
If he is mentally disabled and has the mind of a 16 year old then I don't think there is much you can do.
If he does have a mind of a 16 year old male, he is horny as all hell and will probably try to sleep with a female of his circle of friends, if he gets a chance.
I honestly do not know how you would deal with it. It's like telling a 16 year old not to hang around with 16 year olds.
Perhaps, you can get him to spend more time online gaming, he is inevitably going to be chatting to teens, but won't be able to pose much of a threat to them online.
I would be aiming for threat minimisation. The only other alternative would have him placed into a home of sorts that can keep him out of the way of kids.
Don't report him unless it's sexual (obviously if it's sexual show no mercy!) I've been hanging out with people 10 years older than me since my early teens,it's becuase I'm mature,this guy might just be immature.
Fuck no, that's not normal. I hate it when gross old men (and women) think they're still cool enough to hang around young people, dress like them, talk like them, etc. I see it a lot in bars. Old ass divorced men and women coming up to me talking to me as if I'm interested in what they have to say. I think its weird and creepy. Unless those kids are family of his, report the fucker.
So those who prefer the company of younger people are "gross"?
And pray tell, what would he be reported for? Being immature isn't a crime.
They are who they are. If you've got a problem with it, don't associate with them.
It's clear that the two of us wouldn't get along very well; I'm pretty "gross" myself, and you.....well, you're just judgmental and mean-spirited.
Are you in your forties yet you still dress like you're two decades younger than you are, and do you have teenagers and people in their early twenties for friends? Because then yes, we would not get along very well. I don't think all old people are gross, just the ones who try and act 20 years younger than they are, and not wanting to surround myself with middle aged people doesn't make me mean spirited or judgemental.
No, that does not describe me. But what are your thoughts on an adult who thinks young kids are hilarious and is genuinely interested in their company? Many have suggested that that makes me a creep; I do not care. I'm hurting no one and I desire to hurt no one. I will not change.
And again, you can't report people for being eccentric. Go ahead and try, the authorities will probably just laugh at you.
I think he is a pedophile, why does he get mad if the kids don't want to hug him?