Is it normal for a 21 year old male and a 15 year old female?

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Is it normal for a 20 year old male ALMOST 21, and a MATURED 15 year old female to "like" each other? They met over a social network and started talking, instantly clicked with eachother, they talk on the phone almost every day and are extremely honest with each other, texting 24/7, they facetime and act as if they're in a relationship (long distance) they have been talking for almost three or so months but feel as if they've known each other for years. the 15 year old is very mature, and intelligent, knows what she's doing, the 21 year old isn't a "pedophile" or anything if that sort. They just get along, and tell each other everything. They are best friends and that is all, they do not touch or have any physical contact with each other due to the fact that they live 1000 miles away. And even if they were in person it would be the same way. They have a very strong bond, and it isn't a sexual thing, he has told her exactly how he feels and she has done the same, she's not a "little girl" she is matured, several grade levels ahead, and acts as if she is the same age as he is. They jokingly say "i love yous" to each other. they both wish things would be different so they could be together, but they aren't going through with anything due to age and distance, they are going to wait two or three years for the fifteen year old to become eighteen and more "matured" and legal, to meet so nothing happens when they do get together for the first time (if things work out and they are still talking by then, which is unlikely)
It is NOT a relationship, its a best friend/crush type thing, nothing more from it and nothing less.
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but It's up to no one to say whether its wrong or not, I just would like to know if people think its normal for FEELINGS to grow from this situation? (As in, do you think it's normal for one of them, either the 21 year old or the 15 year old, to get feelings and start to really love one another?)********

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  • Btyou
    10 years ago

    Justin bieber us a modern day Heinrich Himmler

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    It happens, and sometimes lifelong friendship develops and sometimes love, but the age difference does get in the way in the beginning. But you can deal with it, if you both are willing! Good luck with your choiced

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Your not a pedo but wait till she hit's 16, no girl is worth 3 years.

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    • Emptymind
      10 years ago

      I AM the girl, not the guy in this story.
      I'm very very very loyal, to everyone. I'm extremely patient, I don't have any friends where I live whatsoever so it's not very likely that I'll end up blowing him off for someone else because he's far away and it's to much work. three years is long, but if we are still talking then (which I hope we are, but I don't know) I think it will work and I might as well see him and we can see what happens with it. We are completely honest to each other about everything, even though we only just started talking a few months ago he knows me better than anyone I've ever known for years, and I know almost everything about him, good and bad.
      We bond/get along differently than I've ever gotten along with someone,
      he's still like a teenager because he's only 20, about to be 21, and in this day and age most 20 year olds (at least where I live) still live at home and go to school.

      To me I don't give two sh*ts about age, its all about maturity level, you could be a 20 year old boy and act like a prepubescent 12 year old girl.
      I'm fairly mature for my age, and he's my maturity level as far as I can tell. It's not like we've never really talked and we've only texted; we call each other and facetime/skype, we talk like friends and idk its just cool.

      does that make it any different? hahaha, I'm just confused on the whole situation, I know he can get in trouble if we try to do anything but we can't anyways because distance, and we aren't flaunting it anywhere to anyone, do you think it's worth the wait or should I just forget about it and find someone who I can be with right now? I really like him, and I care so much about him and he's the same way with me, it's like we're really close with each other, I would for sure be with him if the situation was different and he said the same. I know it could be stupid to wait because, three years is so long away from now, and we could just end up not working and that three years goes to waste.

      I forgot to add I MIGHT get to see him in a month, I'm going somewhere on a trip and he might go there to meet me, but its most likely not going to happen because of personal reasons, and also we might decide that it's not a good idea and its unfair for him to see me and not really get to spend time with me because I'll be with my family and its only for one or two nights that I'm there and they can't know, because I'm supposed to be with them, not someone who they don't know, that I just met.

      I'm smart, I know what I'm possibly getting myself into.

      I just wana know if its alright for you to like someone who you aren't "supposed" to, you can't control your feelings and its not "right" in the law, but its harmless, and its normal right? And when I'm 18 and he's 24 it won't look as bad, even though it will be the exact same age difference between us.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    First off it is illegal. Second it is not normal. Third you are a paedophile and you need therapy. You are old enough to drink why are you predetoring on highschoolers? They have special therapists for this if you are interested.

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    • Emptymind
      10 years ago

      First off it is NOT illegal to talk to each other, I'm not an idiot, I know the laws. Third I am not a "paedophile" and you need a dictionary. *I am the girl in the situation*, as I stated already, if you would have read everything I wrote. He is the 20 year old. I do not need therapy and neither does he. I am not old enough to drink, neither is he because he isn't even 21 years old yet. It is NOT a relationship, and it is NOT sexual, we are simply very good friends and we talk everyday. I'm not an idiot, every guy I've ever dated has been 17-20, I know how guys think, especially teenage-early twenties, and most of my friends are within that age group too considering I am ahead of my ages grade, and I am more mature than people my age; with that said, and that not seeming to be a problem, I don't understand what's wrong with a 15 and a 21 year old just being friends OVER TEXT. It's not in person, he can't touch me, I can't touch him, even if we wanted to. it's not sexual. Nothings breaking the law. There is nothing wrong with him, he isn't going after girls my age, he didn't know my age when we first started talking so it's not like he started being my friend and getting closely just because I was a young girl. He has never dated or even really talked to any girls my age at the age that he is at now, so this isn't a regular thing for him, he isn't a pedophile and doesn't go after younger people. He simply started being my friend, and I ended up being five or so years younger than him, big deal.

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      • daydreamer394
        8 years ago

        That's normal. Hope you're well.

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