Is it normal for a 22 year old guy to touch a 14 year old girl?

When I was 14 years old I had a friend that had an older brother who was 21-22 years old. It started out as him just complimenting me. Telling me I'm so beautiful. How much he wished I was older. ETC. Then one night when I was sleeping at my friends house he came home rather late, the rest of the house was asleep, and he asked me to watch a movie with him. I did and that's all that happened. The next time I slept over my friends house he came home late again and poked his head into my friends room where she was asleep and I was awake still and asked me to come hang out in his room. I did. (He was attractive and older and I felt special that he was showing interest in me.) So we were hanging out in his room listening to music and he was asking me questions like whether or not I was a virgin. (I was.) Whether or not I had given a blow job. (I had not.) Whether or not I had jerked a guy off. (I had.) After this convo went on for a little (he was wearing only boxers, no shirt) he showed me through his boxers the outline of his hard penis and told me to look at what had happened because I was so sexy. I was flattered. I let him kiss me and we made out for a little while. He kept stopping to tell me how he only wanted to kiss me and he loved kissing me. That was all we did. Until the next time I slept over. He called me in his room late at night once again and asked me if I shaved down there. I said "no." He asked if anyone has ever eaten me out before. I said "no." He said "Really? Will you let me do it?" I got nervous and shrugged saying "I don't know." He respnded with "Trust me, you will like it." and he undressed me from the waist down and licked and kissed my virgina until I guess he got bored. I didn't cum because I was too nervous. I remember feeling like I had to let him do it or he would think I was "un-cool". We never "got together" again. After that, I became rather promiscuous. I gave my first blow job and had sex within 2 months of that night. I also started shaving down there right away. I have so many questions now. Did I become sexually active sooner then I would have if that night hadn't happen? Is it normal for things like this to happen? Was I molested???? I watch the show - To Catch a Preditor - and these 22 year old guys are getting arrested for trying to have sex with 14-15 year olds. Is that guy a sexual preditor? I also now have fantasies about being rapped or molested by older men. Not sure If that is related to that night though. What does everyone think?

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  • _justwondering_

    While it sounds like he took advantage of you to an extent, he didn't force you or drug you and never did anything you'd told him you didn't want to do. So on the moral scale, to me, his actions were questionable but not pervy.
    That said, legally (depending on the state) he may have committed statutory rape. I'm not sure the statute of limitations or penalty.
    While your experiences with him may have contributed to your promiscuity, the fact that you were a willing participant with him- especially after knowing he wanted you and going to his room anyway, says that you were already curious and on your way...

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  • Well, it's not normal really, no. I understand that you let him because of wanting to still look "cool", but does that necessarily mean you were molested? Somewhat. You let him do it, and you had already made out with him so there was some point where you might have known it would go somewhere.
    That could have made you more sexually active then you would have been otherwise, but it also couldn't. And your fantasies like that are normal, some people have those and it's completely fine.

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  • Avant-Garde

    He molested And took advantage of you. Not normal at all. Please, tell someone about this, imagine how Many others he's probably done this to!

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  • dpy

    Technically it was statutory rape but if you didn't feel pressured or threatened then that's up to you to decide. Technically you can't consent but if it didn't bother you and you enjoyed it then keep it between you two.

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  • DaveChangdu

    This happens all the time. At summer camp I fell for this younger girl (14) really beautiful and one evening went to the room she was sharing with a friend. I had tight shorts on and knew they could see my boner. I'd had a few drinks and just thought whatever.........I pulled it out to show them and they were very embarrased. told them that i could see the outine of their cunny's through thier nightshirts, and convinced them to show me.........perfect. we ended up touching, and i got to just sniff (wanted to tongue really!) their holes. beautiful girls - what would you do ? on the coach on the way back at night, got to slip my hand between one of their legs and rub, but she wouldnt let me into her panties. still was good.....

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  • Justaguy101

    as for the fantasy of getting molested by older men..ive heard of previous girlfriends with simular fantasies but in reality its a fantasy, if it actually happened i think your fantasy would be changed into a bad experience...finding a trusting partner that can act or rollplay a rape fantasy for you might be something to keep in mind

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  • Justaguy101

    he should know better but it happens a lot, if you consider the experience to be ok and it doesnt cause you pain and anguish when you think about it then why turn his life to shit..if you said no and he ingnored your request then fuck him

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  • Andyco

    He shdnt touch u . 13 to -14 yr old girls are allways horny their hormones are all over the place . Guys shouldn't take avantage

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    • januarycurse

      sometimes I wish an older guy would've taken advantage of me when I was 14.

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  • X_xYaoiX_X

    the comments above are totally an ok reason for a yes but you shouldn't have let him do that to you for one and an other is to be "cool" You're a young girl who has a whole life ahead of you and shouldn't be thinking of sex of any sort. A lot of girls seem to making bad choices a lot over here where I live in my high school and they're walking around with big tummys ready to push their child out.. What's going to happen to them? Who knows but I'm pretty damn sure it isn't pleasing to walk around with that and hearing rude comments..
    The GIST of what I'm trying to say is be a good educated girl moving along in your life and don't worry what others may think about your sexual life, it's none of their business.

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  • MercedesBenz

    I think that although this situation helped 'break the levee' for you, if it wasnt him it wouldve been someone else. As far as the fantasies, that may just be what turns you on. Some people have the same fantasies. So, youre normal and I think your thoughts and feelings are within reason.

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  • I'm not sure what he did was illegal since you guys didn't have sex. But it would have been stat rape. He did take advantage of you and could of resulted in your behavior. As for the fantasies, very normal :)

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  • aussiewolf

    most women have rape fantasies so you are normal.

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  • kitty0434

    Do you think that plays a part in why I have fantasies about being molested or rapped by older men? Or is that a 'normal' (common) fantasy?

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  • aussiewolf

    ^^^ agreed

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