Is it normal for a 12 year old boy to hug his father?

Long story short my nephew is a 12 year old boy and I am a 30 year old man. We are very close, I'm a huge part of his life and I am a very important person to him. My problem is that I see him often and he always is wanting to get hugs for no reason and I'm concerned that it will make him a pussy and it doesn't feel right to me to hug him. I very rarely if ever hugged my dad and a lot of my friends didn't either. So is it normal for a 12 year old boy to hug his father/father-figure?

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Based on 150 votes (142 yes)
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Comments ( 38 )
  • CozmoWank

    I don't care how old your nephew is, if he wants a hug give him a fucking hug for Christ sake!

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    • RoseIsabella

      Um hmm, I know that's right!

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    • DragonQueen

      Your right honey!

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      • CozmoWank

        Thank you!

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  • Sog

    Wow, is this serious? What the hell is wrong with you? Give the damn kid a hug!

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    • ArtemesiaNoam

      Sometimes culture is different. You need to understand that and stop reacting like a child.

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  • dom180

    That has got to be a troll, right? :/ Yes, of course it's normal.

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    • weinereater

      Not trolling, I was never hugged by my father and the idea of it seems really weird to me.

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      • CozmoWank

        My family was like that. But we've come to accept that life is better with hugs. At first it takes some getting used to. No joke.

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  • Dude seriously? My dad and I hugged tight when I visit when he knows I am alive and well. You must not know the power of a hug, especially when you are separated for more than a year. I guess this is just me. I don't get to see my family or friends very often.

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  • abie

    Somehow it turned into a unmanly thing to hug or get hugged, I am 18 and my dad and I have a great relationship but he's got Parkinson's disease now and can't hug me anymore. I suggest you show your love openly while you still can, these memories really stick. And I'm no wimp, I can whip anyone's ass if they ask for it, but that doesn't mean that I can't love my dad and respect him.

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  • Smack him across the face a bit when he asks for a hug. That'll show him you really care.........Please note my sarcasm. He's just a child, and so what if he "turns in to a pussy", if he wants a hug off of his dad or family members, the best thing to do is show that you'd love one.

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  • shuggy-chan

    He not asking for ballet classes, just give the boy a hug if it makes him happy

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    • RoseIsabella

      Actually ballet is good for balance and coordination especially if a guy's gonna box or play football later.

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    • ArtemesiaNoam

      It isn't comforting at all for the father-figure. At least I assume.

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  • Erik963

    Dude what the fuck. You came to this crooked part of the internet to ask a question that YOU should answer YOURSELF as a parent?

    Seriously?

    As a father you must suck. Put your shit together, if you have a son that gives 2 shits about you then you better start givin shit about him too, or just freakin don't bother talking to him.

    Fuckin people these days.
    Shit.

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    • weinereater

      Are you an idiot? I asked because I do not know and am trying to make the right choice. I guess you belittle and attack people who ask questions? I was never hugged by my father and the same is true of a lot of my friends. I think its a cultural thing that you are too simple minded to understand. I'm here because I want to do whats best for him. I have no obligation to care for this kid because in reality I am only his uncle yet I have assumed the role of father-figure because its the right thing to do for him, so don't tell me how much I "suck".

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      • mlbryan44

        No wonder you are called Weinereater!

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    • ArtemesiaNoam

      Sometimes culture, and belief is different in certain families. You need to respect that, and start behaving like an adult, instead of a mean baby.

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  • TwoThumbs

    Yeah dude. Humans crave physical contact. It actually releases hormones (oxytocin, dopamine...maybe a few more) when you hug someone. Don't be a dick. Give your nephew a hug.

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  • handsignals

    Yeah it's normal, if you don't do it you end up with freaks like me.

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  • I guess I consider myself a little rough around the edges, and I'm not the touchy-feely kind, but I hug my sons every chance I get. My oldest is a college freshman. He's a 190lb 3rd baseman. My younger son is a heavyweight wrestler in high school.

    They're certainly not pussies. They're respectful, compassionate, loving young men who could kick the shit out of anyone who asked for it.

    Life only gives you so many chances to hug the ones you love. Take them.

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  • Cheese123

    Just give the damn kid a hug, he deserves it.

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  • Let's all forget about this question. Weinereater? Weiner- eater? Seriously?

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    • 123456789assssssss

      what are you saying? he just really likes hot dogs... he also likes the white stuff that comes out of them.

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  • Avant-Garde

    Of course, it's normal. There's nothing wrong with a man being emotional. In fact, there have been many studies which prove that males who are taught not to express their emotions can have many unhealthy effects on them.

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    • 123456789assssssss

      ORLY?

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  • megadriver

    How does a hug make you a pussy? It's a sign of affection, friendhip, being a human being. A hug from time to time can say a lot more than words can.
    I study abroad. Whenever I fly back home, my dad always greets me with a hug. I know he cares and is happy to see me. Same goes for my mom.
    I think people who pretend they are "hardass" about this sort of thing are actually pussies.

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    • 123456789assssssss

      friendhip.

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  • Energy

    How does being a normal human automatically make you a "pussy"?

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    • 123456789assssssss

      because if you're normal than you can't fit the crazy ass stereotypes, DUH.

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    • ArtemesiaNoam

      The family's beliefs might differ. What a jerk is to you MAY be manly to them. What normal is to you may be 'p*ssy' to them. Not all of us have the same beliefs, you know.

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      • Energy

        Ok then. What's so bad about being a "pussy" ? Perhaps it's actually a compliment.

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  • tripw7

    Ok, you're not an idiot. However you will do better if you listen to some of the comments that many people have. When you grew up in your family, you obviously didn't share close togetherness. In many respects, things have change a bit. Maybe it's the world getting a little more dangerous, or the fact that we see whole countries, Egypt for instance have big problems. The world over is a different place, and so is the USA. To give a hug is the very least one can do to assure others that you care and you are there and are available for them if need be.

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    • ArtemesiaNoam

      It's not necessary that everyone lives in the USA. Have people forgotten there are other countries in the world? :o

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  • kawaiigurl

    would you feel better if you said no homo afterwards

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  • RapidlyRotatingPanda

    No I'm not a hugger. My mum is slightly huggy and I just don't want any of that. Happily my dad couldn't give the slightest shit and neither could I so we have a great time

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.

    if you can feel it you've gone too far. just watch out.

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