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I felt kind of weird having to know that I had lost my virginity when I was younger when being fingered. And without knowing that i lost my virginity to fingers myself (because it didn't hurt much and no blood)
and after having sex for the first time, I feel sad to not be a virgin anymore? Not that I don't like my boyfriend or anything.
just because your hymen is broken doesnt mean your not a virgin! even lesbians can be virgins if theyve never had sex with a guy but have sex with girls, you lose your virginity when you have sex with a guy, not with your fingers.. that means nothing.
I popped mine with a tampon. I still felt like a virgin after though. Lighten up a lot of girls bust their hymens before sex. It's not uncommon and you're not alone.
Your hymen can be broken from using tampons, masturbation or even from traumatic events that cause a LOT of stress. Some hymen are weaker than others (some don't even break in sex!). It has nothing to do with your virginity. You lose your virginity when you have sexual intercourse with a guy.
So, your virginity was only lost after the first time you've had sex. It is normal to feel weird, though if you're in love with the guy (which should be the only reason you had sex before marriage in my books anyway) you should both feel happy that you've done it. It's an act of love (sure there's definitely lust too, but it should be mainly love) and like a promise that you want to stay with your partner.
One things for sure, even if you feel a little sad or weird, DON'T feel guilty if you're feelings for the guy are (or were) genuine. I hope he feels the same, too.
when you have your first cock in you then you lose you virginity...not with your fingers or tampon or anything.
Seems to me from your question that you understand perfectly the difference between "breaking the hymen" and "having sex for the first time", and that you miss both types of virginity.
Yeah, it's normal to lightly mourn the things we've lost, especially innocence.
I'll never again have the joy of seeing Star Wars for the first time: now I'll always know what's coming. But at the same time, it's cooler in some ways *because* of that.
By all means, miss what you've lost. But love what you have, too :)
One more thing...if you feel "sad" or any other bad feelings after having sex then you are NOT emotionally ready and should wait until you can enjoy sex. Sex is amazing and fun and most people are very happy after sex.
goodness yes it's normal, if you call yourself a virgin or not, it can still be weird after the first time or when or however you pop your cherry
There's two kinds of virginity: biological/physical and mental/spiritual. The second is most important. Virginity is more about purity rather than whether your hymen is intact or not. Virginity is more than whether you have been penetrated by a guy or not. You can be a technical virgin but not a mental one if you have had sexual encounters short of intercourse. But first and foremost virginity is about sexual purity of heart and mind. You lose it when you give your purity to someone else, be it by intercourse or by other sex acts such as oral sex.
To answer your actual question: yes, I think it is normal because virginity is fragile and once it is gone you can't have it back. But if you save it for your spouse and give it as a wedding gift, you don't feel weird.
Anyways to answer your question I think it would be normal to feel bad after not being a virgin no more.
Well my boy friend is. Mylover but im scard it might hur well dus it hes won to plez help
I think losing your virginity is different for staright people then lesbians cuz tho I've had sex w/ both I lost it to a guy 1st n it hurt alot I bled and I wasn't in love and it was jus a horrible experience with a girl I was in love with it was amazin and that's what I call losing my virginity. Some count it when the hymen breaks or a guy inside you but to me it was trustin someone and feelin loved and bein able to enjoy it. It's different for all of us but you shoudlnt feel bad if you were hopin for somethin for him to take then let it be cuz you let him in more then jus through body parts but in your heart.
Lol the whole point of being a virgin is never having a MAN penetrate you with his PENIS! your fingers, or a tampon, or Any other object can't take your virginity LOL how old are you?