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Me and my boyfriend who i love have been together just over a year. i am 19 and hes 21 we are both still in university but a few days ago he asked me to marry him and i told him i wasn't sure about it we are both still so young and feel it might be a mistake but i also love him and am scared if i say no it will ruin our relationship for ever?
| No | 4 | |
| Wait for a while | 64 | |
| i dont know | 6 | |
| Yes | 11 |
Definitely wait. A year in my opinion is definitely not long enough to jump into marriage. Don't rush into things that you aren't sure about. That could lead to even worse things later on. You may just not be ready for something like that and if he's a decent guy and loves you he should understand.
Tell him basically what you told us, that you're not sure.
Both partners need to be 100% sure, for a successful marriage to work. (Too many people rush into it, and usually end up in divorce).
Ask him to ask you again in 6 months, a year, a year and a half, two years. You decide.
both of you are still young and have nothing to lose to wait. Just wait until you're ready. Marriage requires a lot of commitment.
definitely wait if you are not sure. a lot of marriages fail because people are unsure if they actually want to be married yet. remember, it's smarter to wait until you both are out of school and have jobs and the financial means to support yourselves.
I would suggest wait a few years. In my opinion, you two are still young. Enjoy life while you can. But if you're not sure on whether to marry him or not, then do not do it. You must be sure about it.
Tell him you love him a lot, and if he thinks you two can really stay together forever, then what will waiting a few more years hurt?
It depends that happened for me and I decided to wait and he ended up marrying someone else by the next year so i dont really know
At 21/19 the chances for a lifetime relationship are very low. I believe chances get reasonable at 23/22.
I had the same problem with an ex and finally I broke up. He wanted to marry and I didn't want to but didn't know how to say do. I'm glad the story hes ended. It was maybe the wisest decision I have taken.
Yes, having cold feet is normal, especially at such a young age. I agree with the others who suggested waiting a few years. You could tell your boyfriend that you love him and want to be with him, but you're not ready for marriage yet. If he is a good guy, he will understand.
Have you told him that you would have sex with him only after marriage or why to rush so much into getting married, lol?
Whatever the case, I think it is a very sensitive thing so be careful how you'll tell him your decision.