Is it normal do guys like loner girls

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I know girls are expected to be all friendly, full with friends, smiley, SOCIAL, and everything pretty and dandy and stuff. but i wonder what guys think of a girl who is antisocial or has no friends. shes analytical and a NERD. a serious countenance.straight to business approach. dark sense of humor.

i was chatting with my lab partner who is oh so handsome, when he asked me, "do you want to hang out with us? Bring your friends, ill bring mine" My heart dropped. my face turned red. i declined going out with him. ive declined dating guys because i feel they would think im a loser if i dont have girlfriends/friends/social happy life.

this is my deepest embarrassment when i meet guys or when they ask me out. try to get to know me. i dont have the typical "status" of girls. sigh. so yes i dont have boyfriends because i have no friends. does this make sense?

guys, be honest. what do you think?

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ucipher8

10 years ago | pl

I wish i could find someone like you, that way both of us would only have each other to be antisocial with. Sad thing is i'd never ask the loner girl out because im too shy and fear i wont be interesting enough. Its human at the least

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  I literally day dream about this:) Once or twice a day i think what if hes understanding of it after all, because he shares what i share. if i were ever aproached by a guy like you i would absolutely without hesitation say yes:)
  But I can imagine its alot harder for you guys. u kno, u guys are supposed to be "alpha male" the initiator the one to ask her out and i often wonder how guys who are a little more on the shy side ask a girl out how do they do it in the end?
  
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  - ucipher8
    
    10 years ago
    
    There is this episode of law and order where Sam Waterson is asked why he only dates or always dates women in his office. His reply was that it is because only the women in his office ever have anything interesting to talk about...
    
    I wonder what you wonder, though im still just waiting for someone who can approach me. In the end, ill probably die alone which is something im getting used to and it gets easier/harder. Good luck to us both!
    
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jeebley

10 years ago

You sound pretty alright, so don't focus on it... or your concerns might come across badly. You should go out with that guy... You're obviously not doing too bad if you're getting asked out. And maybe you have no friends because you're so different and mysterious and cooler than other girls....who knows? Not me. But I think a certain type of guy would go for you.

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Jeaneathean

10 years ago

You sound fine to me. This could be just a self-confidence issue, surely?

This invitation could start a new chapter for you, AND boost your confidence. Relax a bit, and enjoy yourself.

I wish you well.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  :)
  
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AbnormallyAwesome

10 years ago

You're great!
You don't have to be embarrassed about not having friends or maybe being lonely. Most guys love to take care of girls.

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Sog

10 years ago

Catty "smiley" women that have a ton of gossip friends that they go clubbing with every week is a huge turn-off.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  i mean clubs in general. to me they just seem so superficial:/ its like a bunch of ppl trying too hard to be cool or act drunk, not to mention the random guys who get wayyy too close to you:/ i think its a huge turn off for both males and females who club and are way too loud in general
  
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  - Sog
    
    10 years ago
    
    I don't have a problem with the clubs themselves or getting close to people. My problem is with the arrogant, bitchy women you find there that is bred from guys worshiping the ground that they walk on.
    
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NeuroNeptunian

10 years ago

Depends on the guy. Some guys are more extraverted and enjoy women who are less extraverted. There's no sure fire way to tell whether or not your personality is attracted because everyone has different tastes.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  I find it curious that, throughout my life, even when i was really young as much as i could remember, id always attract the loudest boys in the class, they were the class clowns, the trouble makers, the "bad boys"..etc. I never understood why. To this day I dont. It could be that opposites attract like you said?
  
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  - NeuroNeptunian
    
    10 years ago
    
    Most likely. I am fairly loud and extraverted and most of the guys I attract are quiet dudes.
    
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thegypsysailor

10 years ago

If these guys are asking you out, they must see something in you they like. What better basis for a friendship?
Relax girl, go out and have some fun.

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matthewkoehler

7 years ago

I know how you feel, I don't really have a social life and I'm always worried that girls will find me boring and uninteresting because of it.

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Shnaz

10 years ago

I prefer girls like that. My ex had no girlfriends and she was awesome.

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RoseIsabella

10 years ago

I feel for ya there girl. I hate how a lot of chicks run in packs together!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  I know! I don't get it, travel in herds. They flock together and congregate by the stalls, a strong matriarch comrade it seems
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    10 years ago
    
    Yeah, sometimes they can kinda freak me out.
    
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SparklingOcean<3

10 years ago

I think guys will like you just fine. If I was in your position and they asked, I'd honestly be upfront and just tell them I was a loner chick. Be honest and you never know what could happen!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  Haha I've actually practiced this in the mirror how I'd tell him how I would lol
  
  But then all the damn what ifs start to come I guess I'll never know unless I try
  
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Mersaphe

10 years ago

You sound just like me except I'm a guy. So...how about Saturday night? We can be loners together...but then I guess we wouldn't be lonely anymore since we would have each other

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  Hey yeah. Saturday drunken movie night. I'm actually really chill how about we bake some bud brownies haha jk.
  
  Greetings from Cali :)
  
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Shackleford96

10 years ago

Maybe you could ask if he wants to hang out just you guys at first. Then, once you both get a little more comfortable, you could start hanging out with him and some of his friends?

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wm72

10 years ago

Different types of guys like different types of girls. There is someone for all of us. It's just hard to meet others like you because you don't meet many people. I'm sure there are boys, all alone somewhere, thinking the exact same thing.

My advice - get someone that feels the same about socializing than you do. Otherwise he will want to go out all the time and you don't. He will soon find someone else that he could go out with.

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Anime7

10 years ago

I think you'd be surprised how many women are like yourself.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  I hope so. Ive yet to meet any. It would make my day:) So far (from my experiences) they all seem to be very social very gossipy, and i cannot relate to that. I do remember reading an article somewhere that proposes why women talk so much amongst their clades, because doing so releases some feel good chemical in their brains. But id have to look more into that explanation some more.
  
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  - Anime7
    
    10 years ago
    
    I actually recall something similar, like yeah they release some chemicals. I know what you mean. Do you have a Tumblr by chance? That website pretty much glorifies introverted women like yourself. Men as well. It pretty much just glorifies introverts in general. Hence why I say you're not alone. I don't really meet girls who come off as loners, but I would like to, so long as they are nice. That's really all that matters, if a person is nice. I'm sure you'll see that there's plenty of women like you eventually. But I will admit in the real world it maybe difficult to see, since perhaps it would appear like everyone has someone or they have friends. Or whatever. All I know is that there is nothing wrong with you, and there are people like you. I wish you could meet these people because I know they exist but... I guess I can't. I just hope you know that you're not alone. You're not alone.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      10 years ago
      
      And actually, I did create my own tumbler account lol. Btw why do they call it tumblr what's with the nomenclature. Anyone?
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      10 years ago
      
      I mean I know that I'm not alone so to say in the senses that I'm aware of others like me, it's just that I haven't been exposed to them yet. There's lots of intricate ideas and thoughts we could just intertwine with one another; I do know that the internet is an outlet of expression for many ppl, but I haven't yet met such internet person in real life, if that makes sense, I would LOVE to. Often I just fantasize daydream about such relationship manifesting itself in reality, male or female, but I wonder if this only further alienates me from the rich social reality that ppl seem to heartily enjoy
      
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      - Anime7
        
        10 years ago
        
        Yeah it can be hard to believe it. Like I mean you don't physically see these people, but you know they're out there, or at least you have hope that they do. But hope fades. I feel like people on the internet act different than in real life. Like online there aren't any social cues or rules so you can just act like how you want. You can say stuff like how lonely you feel or like how often you masturbate. But in the real world it's like these people have walls, or rather, going up and talking to them isn't as easy as it is online.
        
        Honestly I am right there with you in meeting these types of people. I think that, while it's alright to daydream, I think you should like maybe make an effort to try and see if people in the real world around you aren't so bad. Like I mean try talking to people more. I mean I know that some people have walls and they can be hard to break but I imagine that once you do a good friendship might form. I mean I know that talking to people is scary, but it doesn't hurt to have friends in the real world. I agree with you in that there thoughts that we all have that would make us intertwine with one another. It just sucks that it isn't that easy to express that we're all the same in real life.
        
        Oh by the way I have no idea why it is called Tumblr.
        
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mixwell

10 years ago

It's normal but if if you're always with him it might get annoying because sometimes both people need to hangout with other people.

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  10 years ago
  
  oh yeah definetly! ugh gross no way would i want to hang out with someone..male or female 24/7. Its like marriage or the like that would be a nightmare, In fact the thought of marriage is my worst nightmare.
  
  i enjoy the light company of aquaintances. Note the keyword. Sparingly. I find it much more comforting being by myself the majority of the time
  
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Energy

10 years ago

Ugh the pressure put on people these days is ridiculous. I don't see why girls have to be more social. In fact, I've met a lot of shy girls in my life. Both are nice. And both is normal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  well yes but if you notice it just seems to be alot more acceptable for males to be the "lone ranger" type. like have you seen the movie "The Crow" or "The Punisher" all male figures who are antisocial anything related to that. i just wonder if the same behavior is a turn off or can be attractive in a female who is solitary
  
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  - Energy
    
    10 years ago
    
    Well... I've certainly met more loner girls, than guys. Guys in general tend to be more cocky and overly confident. And the "loner" type of girls are way more nice, than your average Miss. Popular.
    
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kinkykitten

10 years ago

Yea i used to be the same way and alot of guys liked me and asked me out lol.If a guy is attracted to u he will like u no matter what.So dont be ashamed about the friends part..just say ur friends are busy..lol :)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  lol good call!
  
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[Old Memory]

10 years ago

A guy asked you out? DAMN he must've had very low standards.

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  10 years ago
  
  Please, enlighten me, master douchebag
  
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