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I have heard this one many times... people breaking up because one was "too nice". What's the deal with that? How can someone dislike another person for being too nice?
I have even heard about friends getting distant because one was "too nice" as well... I just don't get people.
I've always thought it was code for "not much fun", "needy" or "creepy". I know someone who gives out a lot of gifts, not because he's especially kind but because he hopes people will spent more time with him if he's super nice; it's pressurising. Over-friendly people can be annoying too, even if they don't realise it and are just trying to be nice.
This is a good one...
Is it really that people dislike others because they are too nice or is that just a lazy/inaccurate way to describe a symptom of a legitimate problem?
People always say my mother-in-law is so nice and she is. But she's annoying. Not because she's so nice, rather because she's intrusive and needy. And when she spoils our kids, it makes parenting much more difficult.
Our high school class president was a textbook goody-two-shoes. As nice as possible. But some of the girls in our class talked shit about her behind her back all the time. Jealousy? Sure, but I think there's a natural sense of wondering if such nice people are judging you for being a little more normal.
I feel like your response is right in line with how I am feeling. My mother in law makes me insane. Always masking her back handed comments and bossiness with her sugary sweet coatings; always wants to "be together", always being the martyr and if you take her up on her "help" offerings, she guilts you, if you tell her you don't need her help (because maybe you think that if she does you a favor, you're inconveniencing her?), she'll tell everyone you didn't want it, or if you take her up on it, she turns around and tells everyone else in the fam that you specifically told her you wanted her to do whatever it is. Makes me want to slap her or I try to avoid family times together because it's like nails on a chalkboard and now I just cringe every time she talks - but family gatherings are ALL THE TIME and I can't just not be there. Omg ANNOYING as HELL.
"Too nice" doesn't literally mean too nice. It just means "not my type" or simply "boring".
I don't really like being with people that are too nice. I just don't think I deserve to be treated this way.
I had a friend who was too nice.. She would give me gifts and was obsessed with me, she didn't have many friends. I liked her before she started obsessing, but then it was too much.
If someone is too nice, I would think that they behave like the other person is everything that matters. That they're opinion is the right opinion and the nice person always just agrees.
I don't get why someone would distance themselves from someone purely because they were "too nice", although I do sort of understand the feeling a bit. I think a lot of people feel like they don't deserve that much niceness, or maybe they just don't want it. Also, there's being nice, which is great, and there's being so perfect in a way that seems completely unrelatable. Like you can't be yourself entirely with them because they're so perfect and you're not.:P You feel like you have to better yourself to meet their level of niceness. Not really sure, though; I've never met anyone who is so nice that I don't want to know them.
People judge me because of my rotten flatulence so I'm never accused of being too nice
I've been weary of people who have been "too nice", because they just seemed like they were forcing it. Fake people I'm not too keen about.
Well, people like that are SO SELFISH! They always want to be the center of the world, of everything.
Dude it's because you can't be too clingy or too pushoverish. Friends have to be challenging to you for you to stay friends. Really good friends that last always have fights together and stuff. One of my friends is a huge pushover when it comes to discussion and it is really a bummer. Totally normal
Whoever says that about a nice person is an idiot. Unless, it's that fake nice. That kind of nice where you think they're really hiding something..., I could understand that. But regardless, I'd rather be around a complete sweetheart all day, than a complete jerk.
Have you ever had that feeling that someone gives you so much attention that it feels like they're suffocating you.
That's usually what people mean by 'too nice'
It can get annoying and end relationships.
Nice is good at times but if you're like Ned Flanders or something it gets boring to many people.
If their being nice is because of insecurity, I think I can understand. If they are nice, because they think they are not worth being around and feel they have to be nice for people to want to be around them.
Also, if it is a boyfriend, and nice is not as much synonymous with friendly as it antonymous with manly.