Is it normal being "socially skillful" and yet wanting to be alone?

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I always try to alienate myself from society, I never want to be surrounded by much people. I always prefer to be with people with few friends, if I have any friends at all. I like being alone all the time, and the happiest moments in my life were when I was doing stuff with no one else.

However.... It is very easy for me to make friends, people like me even if I dont want to. I feel like I was a natural born leader, but I really dont want to have a group behind me. The only reason I wanted to have friends before was to "survive" the school years, right now I dont want to be with anyone.

I am asking this because, I do know that many people are antisocial... but in my experience, most people that claimed to hate being part of the "crowd" just said so because they actually ->couldnt<- be part of it. The biggest "misanthropes" I have met left behind their solitude with no problem as soon as the "crowd" gave them a little affection.

I just want to know if it is normal wanting to be alone when you have the chance to be very popular....

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    But why?

    Being popular and holding sway over the masses is the whole meaning of life. I'm joking.

    Sort of.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I was the same way during high school. I ended up regretting it. Careful what you wish for much?

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  • technicallyhuman
    13 years ago

    im socially unskilled and almost need to be alone so at least your not me :)

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  • Hansberger
    13 years ago

    Individualist, I like it. But selfishness will help you to look after yourself.

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  • xxxMissFitxxx
    13 years ago

    Each to their own.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I have friend to go to but I never want to hang out I frankly only like to hang out at school but never after wards

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  • timebobbu
    13 years ago

    thats so cool, to have ulterior motives

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I can say truthfully I am exactly like you. Espcecially the surviving part you adapted making sure you have just enough to not have alot of people being around wanting your attention because they have yours (popular) and you made sure you had enough friends so people dont look at you as a looser making sure that you dont get attention as a negative.
    Basicly you didnt have alot or to less on purpose so that you dont have to have any attention off of to many people and would rather have it you have no attention off of anyone if you could but realise that cant happen. Am I right?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      ok, that's a very confusing way to write!
      but well... indeed... I just wanted to avoid bullying and those kind of things that could have actually been phisically hurtful....

      oh, and by the way, I was trying to refer more to the people that claims to be antisocial, but as soon as they see a chance to be accepted, they take it with no shame...

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      • dappled
        13 years ago

        We don't always get ItDuz but he's essentially honest pretty much all the time, and although I don't always agree, I really respect someone who unflinchingly says what they think. It's a rare skill and he has it.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    I'm the same way so yeah it's totally normal

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  • amariexo
    13 years ago

    I feel the exact same way most of the time. I have quite a few friends, just like you, but I never feel like spending any time with them. I still want to be friends with them, and I still like them, I just always find myself feeling like I want my alone time.

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  • rocket
    13 years ago

    It is good to enjoy your own good company

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