Is it normal, at 19, to be freaked by the idea of kissing someone?

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Hi! Thanks so much for your help on this pb... I've just moved to the other side of the planet and can't easily contact my friends haha, and I really need some advice!

I'm 19 and have kissed a few guys in clubs an parties already but have never been in a relationship. I met this guy at a party who I think I might go out with, and who's personality I really like... But when he tried kissing me at the end of the party I was suddenly disgusted by the idea of it.
I couldn't help but think of his tongue against mine and him slobbering down my mouth and it really, really freaked / grossed me out. I've felt ill whenever I think about it since, even if I try imagining it with a girl (so I'm definitely not bi)

Has this ever happened to any one before? Do you know if this is a normal reaction? I'm 19 and really want to experience being in a relationship...

Thank you so much!

Yes, it's happened to me / someone else before 11
Yes, it's some sort of reaction to phallic symbolism ? 0
Yes, it's textbook psychology 1
Nope 6
No, call a psy 2
Something else? 2
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  • sillygirl77
    7 years ago

    Since you've kissed others, if this is the first time you've felt this way, maybe it was the idea of kissing this particular person?

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    • Amaria
      7 years ago

      I don't know, maybe? I think I just wasn't attracted physically to him...
      Thanks a lot for your help! :)

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  • DuHast
    7 years ago

    Kissing is a weird thing, when you think about it. I've been grossed out by it, but only with people I didn't like. Anyone I've liked, kissing has always been nice.
    It could just be a quirk in your nature, we're all different.

    My advice is to just tell the person, you're not much of a kisser and you just don't like it. You're pretty young, so I can understand that you might feel weird saying that. But at that age, everyone's still figuring things out, so don't feel weird about it. You're totally entitled to do only what you like and not have to do things that gross you out.
    So don't, it's totally ok to just be up front about stuff like that. There's nothing wrong with it.

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    • Amaria
      7 years ago

      Thank you for your kind answer! I think you're right, I've just never felt anything for the people I've missed before. That might be why...

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Sorry never experienced that any one I've considered kissing I'm drawn to in a way that makes it a pleasurable experience. It is a very intimate thing tho so maybe your just not ready to go there yet.

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    • Amaria
      7 years ago

      I dunno, but maybe... Thanks for the answer :)

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  • Short4Words
    7 years ago

    Maybe if you weren't into all or most of the guys you've kissed, your brain has decided to associated it with something gross or intrusive or non intimate. It's been a LONG time but if I were kissing someone I was attracted to but didn't like I would probably only think of the tongue and the lips and any of the gross parts of the kiss because there's no intimacy there.

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    • Amaria
      7 years ago

      That might be it... Thanks so much for your help on that matter!! :)

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