Is it normal and what is it about wearing lingerie or

I was 13 the first time the thought crossed my mind, and I was actually curious about how it would feel to put on and wear a bra. (Im male). Many times over the years I remember my attitude, my whole demeaner would fluxuate from one extreme to another. As the years went on I recall many bouts of depression, I never knew why I was so extreme in my emotional state. It was about age 28 for me that I realized I, like so many millions of other people in the world, I had no idea why I felt the way I did about things, and no idea how to work thru it. In the mid 1970's there was no way I would tell or try to talk to someone about the realization that I just love the whole feeling of wearing womens attire. My exwife (God Bless you Cindy) talked to me one day I was always having issues with self acceptance. I was finally able to. For years I had no idea how to accept myself as a male crossdresser, and to realize I was no different that so many others. I lived with feelings of guilt, shame, and embarrassment being walked in on when I was dressed in a nightgown and stuff that was obvious it was not meant for men to wear. BUT thru it all, like right now, I can be all stressed about crap, but if I can get something on, a bra or something silky soft, I can feel so much better almost right away. Is that normal for ladies as well?

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  • mommy3

    It's always nice to put on something that makes you feel good about yourself. If cross-dressing makes you happy, do it. You are who you are and you have no reason to be ashamed of that :-)

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    • CDmale4fem

      Mommy3, Thank you and I appreciate your openmindedness, and ability to be accepting of others even tho it may not be something you would want to endure in a relationship. Unlike gotchya below me here, makin sure he has his Macho boots and ego hat on as he walks by so people will get the impression hes a "hardass" and wont confuse him with his favorite band "The BackStrap Boys" ok,, the backstreet boys.

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  • georgienne

    Gotchya, are you 14?? Geez, you're an idiot.

    This is definitely common. MOST (haha gotchya) guys love women's panties, and most try them at least once, even if in private.
    My guy has told me he has at least once, I've no problem with it (as long as he doesn't stretch them) as I've worn his jeans, shirts and boxers.
    Extremely common; I feel great in sexy underwear, if you do too, that's great. :)

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  • BallerinaCass

    I love this. I wish my boyfriend would wear my clothes as much as I wear his. I think it's great that you're a cross-dresser, I really find nothing wrong with it. Some people just feel more comfortable in different attire, I feel the most comfortable with myself in huge sweatshirts (even during summer). : )

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    • CDmale4fem

      I really wish I could find a female that feels and thinks like you do. I think it would be nice to share some things or just have fun with it. You sound like you would have all kinds of fun if you had a guy to wear your stuff. Have you tried just asking him, or telling him how sexy you think it is or could be ? Feel free to email me if you like, maybe I could give you ideas on how to talk with him about it, email address in profile.

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  • TehPurpleOne

    Whatever makes you feel better, man. :) Silk does in fact, make people feel better when they wear it, for it is of fine material. Asian people, mainly of royalty, wore silk robes to show off their beauty and wealth back in the day. Do as your heart wishes, and whatever sets your mind at ease. :) It's not like you're hurting anyone~! :)

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  • CDmale4fem

    Purple and Georgienne, I would like to thank you also for your openmindedness and acceptance of something society and the "MORAL MAJORITY" still are not very accepting of. They can accept gay men together, lesbians together, and even Drag Queens, TS/TV/TG, but its like the social acceptance for crossdressing males is "Very little to not much". Georgienne Have you ever thought about getting your husband into a few pairs of his own ? maybe for birthday get him his own and see what happens with them... lol Someday I need to start putting pictures on photobucket or flickr, in case someone is curious enough to look at them. Thanks again, God Bless you all.

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  • howaminotmyself

    Silk feels good and makes you feel beautiful when you wear it. I see no reason to begrudge a man this experience.

    Are you familiar with the mayor of Silverton, OR? He is an inspiration to this subculture.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stu_Rasmussen

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      howaminotmyself, When you mentioned it I remembered hearing that before, I live within about 35-40 miles from Silverton. I really have to applaud someone for having the strength within themself to face what is gonna be the biggest bunch of the most negative things said, wrote, or implied about them. And most people that do not try or dont want to try understanding anything about a life that, in their eyes, or mind is so totaly wrong, or the biggest comment "your gay" like that gotchya character. I hide his comments,,, hehe. Anyway Thank you all for the positive comments and you have no idea what a difference that can make for a guy like me.
      Now- Would you be able to date or be married to a guy that crossdresses in private ?

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      • howaminotmyself

        Well howdee neighbor! My husband has dressed in drag for Halloween many times. In fact, I have a fuzzy memory of a party where most the men where wearing skirts and dresses for some reason...(what the hell was that?) And in private, he will wear anything I tell him to :) I know it can be hard to feel comfortable with yourself but in private, walk proudly in your underwear.

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        • CDmale4fem

          howamInotmyself - Well I take it you live in Silverton ? I am glad to hear there are at least some males out there that have been lucky to find the openminded and accepting love of their life. If you would like to email outside of IIN, feel free at Keithcd60 and thats on yahoo. I really like to try and get deep into some womens minds when they can accept or not a man wearing lingerie or a skirt, etc. I like to try and find out why they approve or do not approve of males rights to wear comfy undies and a nice skirt around the home. If you choose to email, tell me a bit about you both, and whatever you want actually. I will reply.

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  • CDmale4fem

    I tell you what "gotchya" I dont do fake stories and I damn sure am not gay. I know your gonna rant and rave about how could any guy even think of doing something like that. Well its like this, The folks like you - Narrow minded, judgmental, hollier than thou, My way of thinking is how the world should be run, racist even I bet, and SCARED,,,, Guys that put on the "Im Macho and there is no way my male way of life would include crossdressing or oral sex with a guy". YOU ARE AFRAID THAT SOMEWHERE IN THERE YOU JUST MIGHT ENJOY EVEN WEARING WOMENS PANTIES. AND YOUR EGO WOULD NEVER LET YOUR MACHONESS ADMIT IT TO ANYONE. You remind me of a saying,, A DOOR IS LIKE A MIND, IT WONT WORK IF IT WONT OPEN. And to your second vocabulary attempt- No I am NOT gay, I have never nor will I ever make out with, snuggle, caress, spoon, or anything like that with another guy. And Frankly I Give a S**T less about your opinion and your "Im a Macho guy, I drink beer, shoot guns and fish and fix my truck, there is no way I could ever be curious enough for oral sex with another guy". You have Antlers hangin up in the garage too, that shows your a "REAL HE MAN". Stereotypical people like you really want to try and influence the "moral majority" so people halfway around the world or 4 states from you have to fight their way thru life and deal with the negativity, the embarrassment, and all the rest of the crap that you JUDGMENTAL Folks want to fling our way. I tell you what, why dont you walk up to someone on the street and when they fall or end up on sidewalk- JUST KEEP KICKING THEM WHEN THEY ARE ALREADY DOWN - You selfish PR**K. Life is already hard enough when we hear and or feel the VERY RUDE AND ASSININE WAY GUYS LIKE YOU WANT TO VOICE YOUR OPINION AND YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THINGS YOU CLEARLY DO NOT AND DO NOT WANT TO UNDERSTAND. So If your sister told you she is Lesbian, your gonna treat her like dog crap on your shoes also ?

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  • PopperMcPooperstein

    No, of course it's not "normal!" Honestly, most men don't do this.

    But I think it's totally acceptable. If it makes you feel good, and doesn't hurt anyone, what could be wrong with it?

    I guess what sucks is that although it's acceptable behavior, it's not accepted behavior. Society has come a long way, socially, in recent years, in terms of our general attitude toward atypical behavior. I hope that some day you can feel comfortable dressing however you like, under any circumstances.

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  • An+on

    Socially sketchy but usually ok

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  • angrymama

    You have a beautiful picture. You look great in the lingerie.

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  • Noonesperfect

    Lol gotcya not normal but few people do it

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  • bingo11

    How you should dress and look is all dictated by social norms that are basically... pointless. There is nothing morally wrong or illicit about not following social norms. Back in ancient times, it was the social norm for both men and women to wear robes. Hell, a guy having his ear peirced marked him as homosexual less than a quarter century ago.

    Could you get beat up for not obeying them? Yes, but you can also be beat up for the color of your skin and you have no ability to change that. The fashion industry regularly makes billions of dollars by crossing the boundaries of social norms.

    As far as feeling ashamed, guilty, and embarrassed about it, you shouldn't. You don't owe an explination to anyone, with the exception of your diety if you have one. My opinion is, if there is a deity that is all seeing, all knowing, all powerful, all loving he's probably not going to base your eternal existance on whether you chose to wore pants or a skirt, boxers or a thong, wool or silk...

    On an interesting sidenote, the bible does read that it is immoral to wear clothing made out of two different kinds of fabric. (Duet 12:11 'Thou shalt not wear a garment of divers sorts, as of woollen and linen together') So anybody who has worn polyester (among other things), has opposed God's will.

    Any guilt, stress or negativity you put on yourself for this is undue. You are beating yourself up for not following a set of invisible rules that have no consequences (other than social deviant status). Nobody can give you permission to dress how you want except you. And as far as 'lying about who you are' and all that crap... so does every person who wears make-up, a wig, or fashionably relevant: spanx, wonderbra or slimming clothing. So whats the difference between wearing a bra because you like the material or wearing a bra because you want your A-cup to look like a C-Cup?

    This was a long note, so here's something to smile about... How long before this social norm gets shattered? Well, you won't have to wait forever:

    http://nymag.com/daily/fashion/2008/07/are_you_ready_for_men_in_skirt_1.html

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  • rayst

    Lol calm down man!! Hey i say it's not normal, but as you said, many people over the world do this, so you're not the only one.

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