Is it normal about this girl ?

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Back in highschool I was quite popular, but to be clear I was not a player. So this girl, let's call her Emily had a crush on me but she was too shy to tell me herself so she asked my best friend to do it for her.

I was completely okay with that but I didn't actually respond to her. Then she wrote me a letter asking me out. I accepted and we hung out a couple times. Sadly I tried but I had no feelings for her I could only see her as a good friend so we stopped. I also thought she was kinda cheesy but it was okay.

A while later I had a really tough period when I actually dated a girl I loved and broke up with her. I was upset and it affected my studying. That was when Emily came to me the second time. She was so kind, and I told her every details of my story. She didn't say anything, just asked me to hang out with her so she could help me forget. So we continued our unclarified friendship for about 4 years (nothing happened actually, we didn't hold hand, didn't kiss, didn't have sex). She never told me she loved me again so I didn't know exactly how she felt about me. I never asked.

Then she moved to Florida. We spent a whole year apart. She continuously wrote me letters, very long letters. I replied to some of them at the beginning. And then the letter stopped coming. I was a little surprised but eventually I forgot about her.

About 2 weeks ago, whe suddenly came back to LA. She phoned me and said she missed me a lot and wanted to hang out with me. She booked a table and gave me the time. I came there on time and wait hours for her but she didn't show up. I called her and I heard these very loud noises of a party. She said she was sorry she couldn't come because she had some friends to meet. I was so mad, I thought I was played by that bitch. She had never been so mean to me. Then I ignored her every call. I didn't want to hear her annoying voice anymore.

Yesterday, she showed up in front of my house and asked to talk to me but I told my mom to lie to her that I wasn't home. She then messaged me on facebook, telling me that she was so sorry and she wanted to make it up to me and begged me for another chance. I still haven't replied to her.

So guys, what is wrong with this girl ? Is she normal ? Is she playing a game with me ?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    You will never know the answer to those questions if you don't see her again.
    I find it astonishing in this day of mobile communications that she didn't call, using her phone or a borrowed one, when she stood you up, but there might be a good reason.
    I guess the question you need to answer is, do you have so many girls this interested in being with you that you can blow this one off?

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  • funkedup
    10 years ago

    Ask yourself this: What if it was one of your guy friends that ditched you, would you be so hurt? Or would you brush it off? Maybe your feelings for this person are deeper than you think.

    Also "played by that bitch" is a bit strong for the story you describe. She stood you up for a date, she didn't make off with your life savings (or worse.)

    Final thought, getting your Mom to lie for you is pretty lame. If you're pissed off find a way to communicate it.

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  • andiforoncedonthatehumans
    10 years ago

    You want my advice?Ignore her.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    If you value your friendship, agree to meet her and give her ONE more chance and do tell her to quit the bullshit. IF you agree to meet someone, you show or notify them in good time so they can make other plans.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    10 years ago

    I can relate to your story OP, though in my case I chose to completely shut her out. I don't consider myself a bad person but I just couldn't play along, it was just too cheesy

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Forget her, she sounds flakier than a bad case of dandruff. It kinda looks like she's playing games with you but it could also be that she's upset and mentally unstable. There's a reason it's never worked out with her in the past.

    Get out the old Selsun Blue and wash her out of your hair. I don't think this chick's worth your time and trouble.

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  • Derpinalot
    10 years ago

    She's mad at you. She loved you and you told her you just wanted to be friends, then you dated someone else. She gave you a second chance and you left her, she sent letters.. But she thought she sounded needy, so she stopped sending with hopes that you would send one. But you didn't. She was definetly hurt by this, and when you came back she had many thoughts... But she started with a simple hey I miss you. And she maybe had friends that dragged her to the party, but more likley, she ditched you. And to top it off, she problay purposly let the music through, or else she would of gone outside or done something to muffle the noise. She problay still has a crush on you, or she wouldn't of said she's sorry. Isn't this ovious?? And if she's anything like me, she'll be bringing a shotgun to your house and blowing off your head. But she isn't, so don't worry. I'd say meet her at her house. She problay won't talk to you if she doesn't like you. But if she still likes you... She'll talk.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Hey, what could be dangerous with seeing her again. You said that you never had sex with her, so if she wants to chat and see where you are with your life, why not. Meet at Starbucks. Then you will know if you want to continue with meeting or get closer to her if every way. Good luck.

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    • logan1201
      10 years ago

      I just don't want to be a fool. i kind have a hard time beliviving her now

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      • CozmoWank
        10 years ago

        It does sound like a bad idea of a practical joke on her part. (Standing you up at the restaurant.)
        Do whatever your gut tells you. If you choose to talk to her again, keep it casual. Do what Tipw7 said and meet her at Starbuck's or something where if she doesn't show up or you change your mind you can take your coffee to go.

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