Is it normal about my behaiviour

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im 21 this year and a mother of a 3 year old boy..i left my child's father as he was abusive..he strangled me one night when i was sleeping..but now im together with a guy 9 years older than me..im not sure if our relationship might work out..he is in the shipping line and at times its hard for me to locate him..im a sensitive type of girl..is it ok that i check on him..will i be giving him stress and pressure?

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Based on 53 votes (39 yes)
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  • Tuxedocat
    12 years ago

    Think of the impression you're leaving on your son.. Being with many different guys is gonna give him a bad example of what a health relationship is in the future.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Maybe next time get to know the person your having sex with instead of having a child at 18 with someone who is abusive because now that child might not have someone to take the father role in his life.

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    • howaminotmyself
      13 years ago

      That's a bit cruel. You do not know her story.

      OP, it is understandable that you are cautious. Just be honest with him about your behavior and needs.

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      • [Old Memory]
        13 years ago

        Its abit cruel? how do you think the child will feel? its not cruel its the truth she made her disisions wich was to have a child with an abusive partner at 18. I dont think the child will be happy when mummy has to tell the kid that daddy used to beat mummy.

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        • howaminotmyself
          13 years ago

          Do you know any victims of domestic abuse? You are being insensitive. Hind site is always 20/20 but you can't change the past. Sociopaths are often clever and charming, this it what makes them dangerous.

          Are you the type to punish the victim? I bet you blame rape victims for looking too sexy.

          Sadly there is a child involved, but do not blame the mother for the actions of another. You show no respect and have jumped to a conclusion of your own making.

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  • pambambam
    12 years ago

    You're 21 don't rely on man. Don't date wait til you're 25-26.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Yup i feel the same way

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  • blandy
    13 years ago

    Everyone gets unsure in relationships from time to time the important thing is to wait until you are sure before bringing this man into your childs life. Children need stability and you can't for the second time in only 3 years have them getting close to a person only to rip them away from them because of problems between the two of you and because you didn't simply wait until you were on at least stable ground with this person before bringing them into your lives.

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