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I'm 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for just under two years straight now, and I could never imagine being with anyone else. Yet I still seem to seek constant approval from others, happily showing them my body and talking openly about sex. I want others to want me? Is this normal.
Yeah its normal. But you should know the implications of your actions. Guys will resent you and feel as though you are leading them on if you flaunt your body and talk about sex with them when you have a boyfriend. Just tell guys that you have a boyfriend before you go flirting with them so that they know what they're getting into. I know I would feel deceived and angry if I thought that a girl was interested in me sexually but she didn't tell me that she had a boyfriend and she just wanted me to stroke her ego.
People might lose respect for you because you send mixed signals to everybody just to see their reactions. And your boyfriend may have a problem with it too. Just know how people are reacting and why so you don't have misunderstandings.
You are what's called a 'tease' and not many guys have respect for teases. Sometimes we like the chase and the risk, trying to take you from your boyfriend. But you gotta tell us that you have a boyfriend first. People don't like being decieved
It is normal if you really think your pretty/sexy and you just want to...ya know...want boys to like you and stick their big cock up your wet vagina ;)
but seriously i think its fine to show pics and things as long as there is no emotional feelings and you don`t actually touch other guys in real life
It's common but it's not normal.
Showing your body to others, especially if your bf doesn't know it, is not healthy, it's a violation of his trust.
It means you don't have confidence in yourself. It means that your boyfriend's attention is not enough for you.
A lot of women are like that, not the majority tough: they are ambitious but don't have enough self-confidence to push it through so they compromise by getting in a comfortable relationship first and then checking their "potential" by teasing others.
You probably read a lot of romance novels. In my experience women who are "addicted" or heavy consumers of romance tend to feel dissatisfied, they want a perfect man. Then there is a conflict between their normal self-confidence and the "fantasy" self-confidence induced by reading too much romance, this self-confidence is associated with always getting a great man(as in almost all romance novels, the girl fall madly in love with an exceptional man). This inner conflict creates doubt about yourself and this doubt prevents you from growing a normal healthy self-confidence. You stay in a mental rut where your subconscious is confused about what a relationship should be and what it is. Only by slowing down or quitting the "addiction" can your subconscious re-calibrate itself in the real world.
Don't be surprised if you end up getting raped...you lead the wrong guy on and then say no...maybe he won't hear you say no...get where I'm going with this? Not that I condone rape at all. I just think u should stop being so insecure that you would flirt and show yourself to guys just to feel better about yourself...
I love the chase, and its cute if she can tease you. But you have to draw a boundrie between the stereotype and the official gentleman.
The classic stereotype of most men (boys) are that they must be pleased to be happy.
While that may be a "necessary" evil, Men who think that way deserve to have their gender changed and given a menstruation cycle.
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