Is it normal a guy says he loves you but don't see marrying you?

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I have been in love with this guy for over a year ( but our friendship goes back a few years) Over a year ago we slept together and things ended pretty badly as we both misjudged each others intentions. I wanted a relationship and he didn't probably because of distance as he lives in America and I live in Europe (thats my interpretation) However what happened from there was our friendship went right down the drain, he blocked me out of his life and I was left completely heart broken over losing both a potential partner and my dear friend!

After so many months we finally got back in touch, I was still in love with him but couldn't find myself to tell out of fear that he might again block me out of his life so I basically kept my mouth shut for months! As our friendship was no longer what it used to be I just decided I had enough and blurted everything out as I thought I had nothing to lose! It turned out that on the same day I worked up the courage to tell him he had just arrived in the town I live for business ( I DID NOT EVEN KNOW) DESTINY?

We met up a few hours later! He told me he was glad I told him the truth, he said he loved me and cared about me but could never see himself marrying me... What does this even mean? and what does it mean that we made out!!!! (nothing more)

What is he thinking? Is it the distance? or because I am white and he is Indian? is it because I am divorced? have a child... perhaps he can't accept who I really am?

I feel like destiny is being thrown out the window? yet I feel I have received closure

odd?!

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    There is no such thing as destiny or fate. There is no master plan. We are all just floating around like feathers in a breeze.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    He loves you but he's not in love with you, huh? This may sound cold but forget about him.

    It could be the distance, or because you're White and he's Indian; maybe his parents want him to marry an Indian girl from his caste. Then again it could have something to do with you're being a divorcée with a child... regardless it does in fact sound like he can't accept you for who you really are and it sounds to me like ya'll don't have enough in common.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Ja Maybe! Thanks for the insight! :D

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago

    LOL So, he said he doesn't see himself marrying you..yet you make out with him. At least he got some of what he wanted. It could mean a few things. Maybe he doesn't want to marry anyone...marriage has been getting a bad rep the last decade or so. Maybe he just doesn't think you're the one he's supposed to be with...there could be another woman in his life right now that he feels more of a connection with or he's thinking someone "better" will come along in the future. OR it could just be geography. Would you actually move to him or him to you? But really, I just think he's not IN love with you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks! I think he wanted to go further than kissing but I wouldn't let it seeing I knew it wouldn't go anywhere and I won't let myself get used! You are probably right! He love me as in he cares for me but not in love with me, might also well be he thinks someone better might come along! I'm not that upset about it because I didn't do anything to get myself hurt

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      • RoseIsabella
        11 years ago

        Smart! Don't ya give him none of yo cookie girl, that boy ain't no good fo ya!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Ok destiny or not.... what does it mean that someone says they love you but don't see marrying you?... think that was the bigger question here....

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  • violent-failure
    11 years ago

    yeah, destiny is not real. if it was, time travel would be possible by now. i don't know why.

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