Is it normal 2 think & want your 1st love even though u never see them

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I'm sorry this is so long but could use some answers from anybody that understands, if you don't feel like reading it then don't, but move on and don't bash.

So there was this girl I use to go out with when I was about 14 and 15 and she was my first real girlfriend. We were really in love, I mean really. I live in a subdivision and we made out in every section and on every square foot of that place haha. I broke up with HER because I being immiture thought it would be a fun game or something to play. She moved away not long after and we never got the chance to patch things up. I'm 24 years old now and all through out my life she always popped up in my head. Just random thoughts of her ALL OF THE TIME! I have had so many serious relationships since, even an engagement. I've thought about other ex girlfriends but she is the ONE girl that always remained constant in my mind and I never stopped thinking about her once and I don't know why. I always just wanted to come out and tell her all of this but I am too certain she would be like "What the! that's weird i don't even know you anymore" I ran in to her 4 or 5 times since and it always seemed like she would show up right after I was thinking about her. One time she even ended up in a course I was taking. She even talked to me online once or twice or visa versa when we were'nt feeling to akward towards each other. She said something like "I use to be so inlove with you" or something one time and then ended the convo quickly after. Maybe her bf was there. Anyway 4 or 5 yrs go by without having ANY contact with her and I still always think about this girl, she was adorable and still is. I always thought she was the most beautiful girl I ever seen and I'm not saying that as a cleshay I mean it. I don't know what to do and I can't believe not only do I always think about her still but I get actually depressed sometimes. She's the last real memory when I can remember being happy and not having a care in the world. btw she's engaged and not the type to cheat. From what I hear she loves him alot. I'm not asking if you still think about your first love, I know alot of people have that problem. Has anybody ever obsessed to this degree about a girl they never talked to in 5 years and know there is probably no chance in ever being with her?

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  • Defkiller
    11 years ago

    My first love is dying from liver failure.

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  • alysha633
    13 years ago

    I get this all the time im finding myself trying to meet up but his not interested even though he still emails me and we both have different partners

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    When I was 14 I had something similar happen.

    There was a girl I knew named Alicia who I loved very much. It wasn't a romantic relationship but we were very close. One day her father got a new job that required him to move and I never saw her again.

    For 3 years I thought about her.

    Sometime later I looked her up and gave her a phone call. On the phone she told me that she had completely forgotten about me and had moved on. I was devastated. But afterwards, I never thought about her again.

    It sounds to me you need to hear the same from her. That you need to tell her how you feel and have her tell you that's completely over. Then you'll be at peace as I was and am.

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  • rockhead
    13 years ago

    this is quite interesting. I understand how you must feel, I was in love with a girl for over 2 yrs. she was my first love too, and though she always just played with me i still miss her, and a part of me still wants her, though by now i learned my lesson. she pulled her last stunt a few weeks ago, and then I said I'm done with this.

    You might not relate your situation to mine because your girl did love you, however it is normal that you still think about this girl SPECIALLY because you were the one who "broke it up" right?

    judging by the things you said, I think all those times she told you she was really in love with you, she was expecting you to say something too... maybe.
    dude I nkw its hard but if you have a chance to befriend her again I say you go for it. And once you have regained comfort with her bring the subject as if its not a big deal anymore, say how you USED to feel for her and see how she reacts, after that you still think about her. remember not to get all emotionally right off the bat or shes gona freak out.

    I think you should do that, in case she wants you too deep inside, and if not then at least you'll be able to close that chapter of your life knowing you did everything you could, but it wasnt meant that way. but you know your situation better than I do. Hope my words helped.

    Good luck man

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