Is it normal ...that i'm married and love my best friend

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So. I have never done this before, but I honestly have no where else to turn. I really don't know what to do. I guess you need some background about myself. I'm 24, I'm female. I'm married to an amazing man. We have a son who is just the best thing since sliced bread. My husband and I have another couple who is close to our age who also have a son. We have all been friends for nearly 6 years now. Simple, happy life. Right? No! I'm totally in love with her. I can't even go back and tell you when it started. I just know that I can't help it. She knows though how I feel. I did finally tell her. To my surprise she felt the same way! I'm sorry if this is so long and a book. Its hard to get out everything and how it happened. Its all important at least to me it is. Well it went several months after we confessed how we felt when we finally kissed.Since then we have made out once. It was so intense she made me leave. Witch is okay we both agreed it was best to leave sex out of it. Those are very hard words to chew. I guess my question is this...is it normal that I crave her, not just in sexual terms. I don't want you all to think I'm just after sex from her. Its her in general. Her laugh, her eyes, her conversations, her intelligence. aw I could go on forever. Is it normal though that I do want to ravage her, feel her touch her, taste her. But I'm not here for advice to get her to sleep with me. If I really wanted that to happen I'm sure it would. I just don't understand. I love my husband very much. Its like I'm two different people. I have two separate loves for them. They both fulfill different places in my life. I love my son. I just have all these feelings. Sorry I have rambled. Any advice would be very appreciated.

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    I think you need to be an adult about it. You need to use your head and your heart as a team. You can't have both. It isn't fair to either. So you need to figure out what you foresee making you happiest long term and get a mature, honest plan together on how to end one relationship and grow the other. Emotions are never easy, and decisions aren't always easy either. If you can't control your emotions, then you have to alter the environment to force your emotions to adapt. Eliminate one if the situations. Example: An alcoholic can't always control their behavior/feelings so they have to control their environment. They don't hang out in bars etc, if they don't want to fall back into the same dilemma. Hope that helps. Good luck with what you decide.

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  • Idgie
    12 years ago

    How am I hurting my house hold? I want to know is this normal. I have never had feelings for another female before. Until her. This has been a year since she and I have discussed this. We both agree that we needed to set walls and boundaries and we have been really good at it. My husband and I are doing great we have a happy family. I just don't understand. I guess I came to the wrong place.

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  • carma
    12 years ago

    Not really. You are not looking for an advice, but for somebody saying yes its normal. You can hurt your housband, your kid, your friends housband... Plus your friend. Plus yourself.

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