Is it normal - memory blocking

When I was 12 years-old my quality of life was less than admirable. My family went through an eviction, my mother was working multiple jobs and attending college again, added onto this was the fact that my sister is severely disabled which made life more complicated and hectic.

We went to live with my brother's apartment with his wife and my mother and her completely lacked chemistry and frequently argued, which was distressful for everyone. Since I was very young, I usually observed rather than interfered which unknowingly to me made me depressed. I saw and understood how stressed my mother was but was too young to relieve any of the burden from her and at time felt responsible for some of the difficulties.

I was at the time, completely unaware of how much it was affecting me until many years later after we moved out, and relations with everyone in our family were fantastic. My sister-in-law (the one my mother didn't get along with) and I were driving towards her and my brother's new home when we passed the apartment complex that we used to live in along the way. She made a comment about the past and I gave her a strange look, becoming skeptical that we'd ever lived there.

She looked at me like I grew another head (maybe I did!). But as I continued starting at the apartments, I couldn't remember a single thing about them. They didn't look familiar and when she tried reminding me of the things that had happened there, my memory for that subject was lacking as well.

I was the first time I really noticed how I tend to block memories and experiences whenever I find them emotionally overwhelming. So, I was wondering... is this normal? Is it normal for your brain to forget something, even if it's supposed to be fresh in your memory because it was too stressful?

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Based on 46 votes (44 yes)
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Comments ( 5 )
  • FloridaCalm

    I wish my memories could go away..... I have hard time typing this..... I have been abused, hurt, bullied, and even forced to limited food and water and no bathroom, resorting to the woods and having cameras watching, threats over me if i dare leave. just about locked down. YES IM A GUY AND IT HAPPENS. So I agree to this.

    IT IS NORMAL, We must all sadly accept that memories, or nightmares like this are going to stay. The brain against contrary popular belief, Never forgets, it just replaces it. ITS TIME TO PUT THE PAST BEHIND THE BEST TO YOUR ABILITY AND FORGIVE BUT NOT FORGET. Just know no matter what you do you are never alone no matter how terrible. But some things are never forgetable..... or forgivable..... later in your life, there are many stars. See those stars and not the ground.

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  • LovesLife

    Hmm maybe I should post asking if it's normal that I frequently had dreams of a specific house which at different dreams where diff ppl / surroundings different but the house was always the same , but the odd part is I've NEVER lived in the house nor had I ever seen it in my lifetime! What does that mean??

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  • LovesLife

    It's very normal it's actually a defense mechanism which every1 has

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  • jbobby

    I think its normal. No one wants to remember things they regret.

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  • Smileyave6

    Well, i think that you were trying to forget just so you can get your mind off of it, but maybe you will want to think before you "block" something out of your head but i hope that your better now :)

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