Is it normal 2 b upset at friend who says she's broke but still spends

So my friend and i planned to go traveling about a few years ago, but she said she didn't have any money. Ok I thought, that is fair enough. Even when I asked her to go with me to FL (we're both in CA) last year, she said she couldnt afford it. All other travel plans we made were also put on hold and never realized, because she said she has no vacation time or money.

Then, last year, after she told me she couldnt come to FL with me for spring break, I found out she went visiting another friend in FL (same town!) only a few months later. Earlier this year I saw her having gone to some tropical island which she says she didnt pay for to stay - cause her uncle lives there - so supposedly she could afford it - but just the same.

I did confront her and tried not to be bothered by it, but it DOES bother me. It is so insincere. She says she has no time and money, but she apparently has time and money for others? She said she doesnt understand why I even care and why it bothers me. She also told me it was none of my business how she got the money to go there, as she doesnt owe me anything or even explanations. But that is not the point. I just think it is insincere of her to tell me she doesnt have time/money to go traveling with me, but she does have time and money to plan travels with others.

Maybe i am missing something here. Is my reaction out of the ordinary? Would other feel weird too, like something ws not right? Do i really have no right to either tell her about it or even let it bother me? What would others do in my place? Am I weird being bothered by this?

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  • Jayemen

    I agree. My one business, and personal, friend, "Marissa" (name change) is a hot, petite blonde, friendly, and we do very well together. She's always crying the blues about money, looking for another sales job, yet..Spends tons on jewelry crap from tv, leases a Lexus..Spends what she doesn't have. I spent a full day with her, getting two full boxes of jewelry stuff appraised, and..One..One. Piece was actually worth something.

    We went to eat, and, while I'd have paid for her anyway, on the way she said "Well, thanks to that, I have no money..And going to my timeshare in Florida next week".. What?? You're broke, but, buy all this shit from tv and have a timeshare in Florida?

    I've told her many times..You're lucky your hot and I like you". She laughs it off, like fun, but I mean it..If she were just another woman and did these things, I'd be far gone by now.

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    • Gurl_Power

      This is how women are with money in general. Very few of them (if any) understand how to save money so that you have it in case you need it for an emergency. Usually the good looking women as well. In my opinion it is because they have little trouble finding someone (a man) to pay for what they need, so they don't bother (don't need to) learn how to save at all.

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      • Jayemen

        I think with this friend, anyway, it's also a make money make money, blow it, I'll make it back OR, find a guy to do it, mentality. She's in sales, and, prior to her current job, number 1 for years at her last one. Knew her busy times of year, but, I don't think, planned for the low times.

        That weekend day of getting the crappy jewelry appraised should have been a sign for her, but, I don't think it was. Leased her newer Lexus because the other one didn't have heated seats.

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  • omaclean

    Normal to be pissed off. If it comes up again give her a royal kick up the rear. Don't take that shit!

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  • misscrapsalot

    Honesty is an expensive gift. Don't expect it from cheap people

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  • Moonlighting

    Well a lot of the things she does just dont seem sincere. Like the last trip she went on to spain I asked her to bring me a souvenir since I really love spain. She totallt ignored me and brought her sister and a co worker gifts and didnt even bring me anything. I didnt say anything but it sucked. She also would post on her co-worker's page on facebook saying "I miss you so much" but hasnt talked to me at all since she got back. This is really starting to annoy me and she is more and more striking me as someone I maybe shouldnt count on as a friend.

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  • That's normal to be mad. I'd say find another person to travel with. It's obvious she is blowing you off on purpose.

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  • Sounds to me that she doesn't like you, and doesn't want to spend time with you. So if I were you I would find another friend to go traveling with. Hope it helps

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