Is it normal: 20 years old and never dated?

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Girls what would you think of a 20 year old guy that never dated? No girlfriend, no sexual experience, never kissed, nothing. What goes through your head when you hear that? And guys what do you think? Answer as honestly as you can, try answering before reading other comments to avoid swaying your initial answer. Blunt and to the point is good, just found out about this site so it will be nice to have an in on some honest answers. Be sure to state your gender! Thanks guys!..and gals :)

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  • Ipooprainbows
    11 years ago

    Well it's not common but is normal. I am a 18 (girl) and personally think that it's a good thing! :) I get sick of hearing about all the guys that just have one night stands or cheat on their gfs, or are just straight plain sex crazed.. same goes for the girls. I think you should be very proud of yourself. I also have never dated or kissed or done anything sexual.

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    • Dave43
      11 years ago

      Thanks for your reply! I wish it was more common, now days everyone's having sex at 14 and if you haven't slept with someone by 18 or as much as had a girlfriend your just a failure at life. Iv'e always hoped my first girlfriend wouldn't have any experience as well, so we could experience all the firsts together, by now my window is almost completely closed :( Its hard seeing your younger siblings go on dates before you. I like your perspective, Iv'e never thought about looking at it that way, being proud of it rather than ashamed. Cheers to not being a used lover! lol. Thanks again :)

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      • Ipooprainbows
        11 years ago

        your welcome! and I agree totally!! I wish it was more common and people had more self-respect. Loosing your virginity at an age of 14 is sadly normal but I believe that's so unjust. I think people will call someone like yourself a failure or weird because they don't understand and can't restrain their urges. Therefore you are the wise one, the person with morals, self-respect, control ect..It probably will be difficult for you to find a gf that hasn't had any experience like yourself as it is very rare these days as you would know, also someone with experience is more able to aide you in areas that you are uncertain about, but I do see your point. Thanks for the comment :)

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    I think that is sweet & awesome I would'nt think the guy is a loser at all. I actually would want to get to know the guy since we have lots of things in common when it comes to life experiences or lack thereof.

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    • Dave43
      11 years ago

      Why thank you very much :) You make me feel more like a late bloomer rather than an undesirable pathetic loser like the media does. I was bracing to get bashed lol.

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      • CheyChey
        11 years ago

        lol My pleasure :) The media sucks and so does society's expectations. Nothing has a timeframe.

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  • herpaderpa
    11 years ago

    Same here but I'm 21

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  • Shrunk
    11 years ago

    TBH first thought is, are you mentally stable. and please don't take that too harshly, as I am 21 and same deal as you. I wouldn't be offended if you asked me the same thing, and honestly i would answer "maybe not completely" but anyway for some reason that seems like the only reason a guy is in that situation these days, not being sexist or anything, just observation. but if it was by his own choice and/or discipline, I think it's totally fine, and I would like to meet a guy like that! cos that's what i'm like

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    • Dave43
      11 years ago

      Haha no worries bro! I'm sure my mental stability is questionable to a degree but I think it's mostly because I'm shy. Iv'e had many girls show interest and a few have asked me out(over a span of many years back in middle and high school) but Iv'e always given myself an excuse not to go, like "It will be awkward because I won't know what to talk about" or "I don't even know how to dance." etc. But now being 20 I don't wish to delay anymore, it's becoming uncomfortable and it's time for me to overcome this crutch. I just wanted to know if it was something I should be embarrassed about or hide should someone ever ask. So far the comments have been positive and everyone very kind. Thanks for the reply Shrunk.

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      • Shrunk
        11 years ago

        I understand, I'm the same way, too shy. I've had some guys I liked show interest but I was too nervous to go out with them, and made excuses to myself how they weren't 'right' for me. Now I wish I hadn't done that, because if nothing else, it would have been good life experience. I don't think it would be a turn off to most girls if you told them your past situation, if anything they will find it pretty admirable, at least I would...:)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Hey it happens there could be many reasons why it hasn't happened don't give up challenge again.

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