Is it normal???

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Ok, so I'm in this "relationship" I guess. I've been "seeing" this guy for almost a year and a half. But we've not dating. We do everything as if we were a couple such as; dates, cuddling, sex, and just plain old hanging out 24/7.

I have major issues with myself. I think I'm the ugliest person alive. I hate going out because I think everyone is staring at me. Malls and other girly things I don't like, because I think every pretty person is making fun of me. I use to be so confident. I wore makeup, (nice) girl clothing, took out over 14 peircings (all hidden on the body, except 2), just so I could fit in. But it seemed like nothing was good enough. Instead of people whispering behind my back, they told me to my face. It's completely ruined my confidence.

Now my question finally is.. Is it normal to think he's just waiting for something better to come along? It's been a year and a half, and to everyone we are still JUST friends. I don't know what to do! I love him to death but I don't want a f*ck buddy.

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  • AWams
    10 years ago

    Friends with benefits ftw

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    I would like to pierce your vagina.

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  • bleedingundeadheart
    13 years ago

    no need for fear Z is here! I'll be your person

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    Ugh.... You deserve more, much more. I think you are right to associate your low self-esteem with your choice to be with this guy. Perhaps talk to someone to work on this problem. This is not the right guy. You deserve respect.

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  • GalacticEgg
    14 years ago

    Confidence is a very misused word. Confidence is not something that you're supposed to have when you are, say, 'prettier than' or 'as pretty as' other girls. Confidence is not something that you're supposed to have when you get better grades than anyone else, or when you wear better clothes, or have a better body, or have more money.

    Confidence is having respect for yourself; when you respect yourself, you are able to respect others, and this is why TRUE confidence is a very admirable quality and other people are attracted to it.

    As far as your fuck buddy goes, sounds like he wants to keep his options open. A strong step in learning to respect yourself and gain confidence (which is infinitely more important than having a 'boyfriend') would be to assess how healthy it would be to try and get into a serious relationship with someone who obviously isn't seeking to place you as a priority...clue: it's not.

    Good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    ask him out lol

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      Yes you should ask him out if after all that he does not want to go out with you , than yes he is waiting for somthing better to come along becuase he just wants to have sex with you if you guys are like this and he doesnt say yes to going out . Thats how some guys are so ask him out if he says no he is a complete jerk and you deserve better .

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  • combatgal856
    14 years ago

    I'm in the same situation, except I have more confidence when out, and I've been told I'm decent looking. I just find it hard to believe it for myself.

    Me and my 'boyfriend' (who is my friend, we are not going out but we have sex, kiss etc) have had plenty of arguments about the topic of what we are and I walk off then apologise but I never get my answer.

    The point of my story is talk to him about it and ask him, maybe try to say it as a joke first then look deeper into it like 'I never know where I stand with you sometimes...' and just get he's attention, if he cared he would listen and answer and you could maybe act on it.

    By the way ugliness is all in your head. You are not ugly unless you believe it so find youself some confidence. Many websites give advice about it, just google it or something

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