Is it noramal for a married man to enjoy looking at men?

I am a happily married man for 22 years with 2 great children. My wife and I have a good sex life, but I am also turned on by other Men. I find men very attractive and often I am excited to see Men with no shirt. Many times I also find myself looking at Men in the locker room at the Gym and I often get turned on by Men's bulges in their pants.

Should I respond to my natural desires?

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Based on 284 votes (214 yes)
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Comments ( 19 )
  • Alaskaraven

    Great. Another man in the world that takes ALL the good years his wife had, THEN decides to "Be true to himself", and screw up the entire family.

    Gotta tell you, we are not impressed when you pansy asses pull this kind of thing. ick.

    P.S. Thankfully, it hasn't happened to me, but I do know one family...

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  • DiscoDuck

    Wow you sound a lot like me. I too am married and find men to be attractive, well some men...lol. I must admit, I fantasize about being with a man at times. I think if you get a chance to act on your feelings that you should go for it...with caution.

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    • cambscurious

      me to definately

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  • Jen118584

    Well, you're married. So....no. Just because they're men doesn't men it isn't cheating.

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  • bobtv

    You got gay tendency! It's ok, just be careful. You can experience with a guy, Craigslist is great for that. Whether that's cheating or not, up to you, I don't judge.

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  • honeybeee

    It's coz u watch too much porn and too much penises if u stop porn u wont like guyss

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  • Normally

    Sure, it's normal. All attractive people are sexy. No matter what sex they are. Plus, I really think all men fantasize about sexual encounters with other men. Penis' are a turn on to men too.

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    • I agree 100% with you. Although I am attracted to men, I am more attracted to women's breasts and legs. Howevr I do enjoy to look at the bulge in a man's pants. perhaps it is penis envy??? what do you feel?

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  • Sauer919

    Being gay myself I'll say it's normal, but no, you should not act on it. You made a commitment to your wife, and even more than that now you have children to think of. If you determine that you're absolutely gay then there is an argument for divorce, or an open relationship with permission from your wife, but I'm not seeing "absolutely 100%% gay" from your post, I'm seeing curious, perhaps bisexual. Honor your commitment. If it comes to it, alter or abolish the commitment out in the open, but don't cheat on your wife.

    Hey, there's always porn and your favorite hand. Maybe your wife would even be game for using a strap-on, who knows.

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  • amplified

    It is perfectly normal to be curious and wonder about the same sex and also fantasize about them. However you are probably wondering why you would be having these feelings if you are happy and have a wife? Just because you feel this way doesnt make you gay, and it doesn't make you bisexual, it doesn't make you anything. - Well if it makes you anything it makes you curious and this is FINE. It's not cheating if you feel this way about anyone, you can't help how you feel, it is only cheating if you choose to act on it. Re-evaluate what you want and what you don't and think about what would happen if you acted on your feelings. Many of us have feelings such as these sometime in our lives. In my view I would think about your wife and children as well as what you want too. Good Luck, take care x

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  • Tammy2tone

    I've never know a man that fantisizeday about cock that was able to contain it. Pretty sure you're going to take dic . Be yourself.

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  • JazzyJim

    It is not healthy to suppress those desires.

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  • mister_thinker

    I have to agree with some of the previous comments. I think most men, if they're honest, at some time or another find other guys attractive.
    Maybe it means your bi, maybe it doesn't. I think that's sort of irrelevant.
    But no, you shouldn't do anything about it - because you're married. And a commitment is a commitment. If you suddenly found younger women, or older women, or women of a different race more attractive than your wife, you wouldn't consider it ok to do something about it, and respond to your natural desires.
    Marriage, whatever your sexuality, is about trust and commitment. And you shouldn't do damage to that to satisfy your curiosity about being bisexual.
    It's unfortunate that you've only realised you find guys attractive after so long, but that's the way it is.

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  • hornsby123

    Batty boooys, need to stay far fi weeeeee!

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  • Andy9000

    NO it is not normal. You are likely gay!

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    • billmichigan45

      I really don't think I am gay because I enjoy to look at women even more than men. Women are so sensual, but still I look at men and when I see a good looking guy I do have some feelings. Gay - NO.

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  • happy09

    it is not normal if you have awife clearly you are GAy! but if your wife so happens to be a man then i assume its normal but that is still cheating!

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  • I'm a guy so I am leaning toward a no answer. In a loving relationship a person needs to be respectful toward their spouse and you are hiding something from her. If you are deep down gay that is okay, but please be kind and let your wife know.

    It may turn into a good experience for the both of you in the end.

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  • animalcracker

    well, to me it looks like u like men. I guess ur gay or BI idk im not an expert, wat worries me the most is ur family. if ur going to tell ur wife about this, i really dont want to know wat she will do or tell u. do wat u feel is best. good luck. And no, i dont think this is normal. :/

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