Is it necessary to come out of the closet when...

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Is it necessary to come out of the closet when one's parents are obviously totally against LGBT people?

I don't understand why some have this urge to come out of the closet and announce that they are not straight when they have parents against such things. There is a high rate of homeless people who are part of the LGBT youth according to PFLAG Phoenix. Why couldn't the youth wait until they at least got a job before coming out? Why did they have to come out so soon? Why do they have to make it their parents business if they are not straight?

I am straight (I think) but if I wasn't, I wouldn't tell my parents because I know better. I would ,however, tell once I feel like I have found my soul mate and once I can support myself. I am not saying that they don't deserve to know but why don't people refrain for their sake and the sake of the people around them?

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    I think timing should be taken into consideration as you mentioned - you dont want to be homeless or ruin your future. I think that you should be comfortable with yourself first and foremost - if you truly are comfortable with yourself you will make a LOGICAL decision. Logical meaning you will weigh the pros and cons, and predict the most accurate outcome based on previous experiences once all the information has been gathered - if you know your parents are against it and they will most likely kick you out then telling them would be highly illogical. I dont make decisions based purely on emotion because they typically dont end up the way I would like.
    I have a hard time feeling sorry for people who constantly make bad decisions based on emotion and expect you to feel sorry for them.
    BTW - there is obviously a difference if you feel very morally strong and are willing to accept the consequences of the situation.

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  • Oli
    12 years ago

    Ass, do you even know how damaging being in the closet is?

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  • forevercg
    12 years ago

    Honestly I think a parent should be able to love their child no matter what. If i was into girls(i am a girl) i would want my parents to know. I really dont think i would be happy hidding it. Its nothing to be ashamed about so why hide it? My step mom hates gays to the point that she has said to her children if they are gay she will never speek to them again.and im like 85% sure my little brother is gay. He is changing for worst everytime i see him and my dad tells me my little brother crys most nights. They keep telling me its because he misses me ... but im possitive its that since i left he sees no help around him. I hate people that cant support their children.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    Because nothing is more difficult than living a lie. I waited until I was older and it was pure hell.

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    So they can make out in public and not have to hide and have their bf at their house and not be set up with girls and not live a lie

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    ... when hide and seek is over and nobodys playing the game anymore. Of course it is!

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  • thisisme23
    10 years ago

    I very much agree with you, it's not really necessary come out to parents unless you are in a same sex relationship. If so then it's not fair to your partner to have to hide whenever you parents are around

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    I can't relate I never really came out of the closet because I've always been gay and accepted just never been too sexually aggressive ja know

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    not necessary.

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  • buckshot69
    12 years ago

    Thats probably the best way to go about it, People are always screaming to be yourself to be you. And like you said, no homeless guy is faking anything, it's just him, so being yourself is important, but hiding who you are to protect yourself is sometimes a better way to go.

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  • milabu
    12 years ago

    I get that people don't want to lie but does it outweigh the cons if banishment is the obvious end result?

    I do hate people who can't support their children also but some people are just hardwired that way. Some grew up that way and you know what they say about old habits...

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