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It's my first time to attend a wedding. I read the invitation card and it states there that "monetary gifts would be much appreciated". I was just wondering if it's really necessary to gift cash, or would it also be just fine to go for traditional gifts? I'm sorry if my question seems dumb, but I just really need an answer to that. In my opinion tho, giving cash is just awkward for me.
It used to be crass, but now more newlyweds want cash instead of stuff they’ll never use. This couple obviously would prefer money.
I am sure that plenty of wedding gifts are actually just an unwanted gift that is being re-gifted anyway. Money is always the right size and color and goes with everything. Besides most newlyweds don't have anything and don't have the money to go out and buy anything. They will most likely go way into debt just going on the honeymoon. So some cash can come in quite handy and be better used than three toasters.
Less than 5% of our wedding gifts were useful to us. We were both older and I already had a house with all the normal stuff in it, and we didn't need the same newly wed advice book from 3 people. We gave most of the rest away or donated them to charity.
I, the groom, paid for the wedding and then there were thousands of dollars in legal and immigration fees from recently and on the horizon. We did send a very cute letter about the situation (and that my house already had a nice dinner setting, a nice pot and pan set, etc and suggested that cash to offset the legal and immigration fees would be greatly appreciated and more useful if they were struggling on what to give us). Most people showed up with gifts.
So, I can see where people find cash more appropriate.
Gift catalogs work well... just get a good one, and not a low cost one.
Are they registered anywhere? I think if they are registered somewhere it would be good to get them something they need, but if not then perhaps just gift them some money, although I do tend to think it can be rather crass, like DADNSCAL pointed out it used to be back in the day.
Sometimes I wonder if they are asking for cash to help pay for the wedding if the bride, and groom are perhaps paying for the wedding themselves. It's traditional for the father of the bride to pay for the wedding, but these days I'm sure there are plenty of brides without fathers, and regardless the bride's parents would have to be millionaires with the way the cost of weddings has skyrocketed.
It's kinda embarrassing, but although I have been married, and divorced twice I've never had a traditional white wedding, and it kinda makes me a little sad on one level, but sorta relieves me on another level, because I guess I'm kind of an introvert, and I always thought I didn't know enough people to have a big wedding, and it has always made me anxious just thinking about all of that planning.