Is it messed up to not like someone who tries so hard to win you over?

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This is over all for everyone and anyone who has been in this situation. Some people might like a person and try so hard to win them over. In an ideal world this person will always say yes. In the real world they will sometimes say no. If someone tries very hard to win you over and you do not like them are you bad? Should they except at one point that you just do not like them? I have seen this happen before but who is the bad one in this case? If you do not give to these people everyone thinks you are a bastard. Though are you really for just not liking someone or do gifts and attention mean you are obligated to love them?

You are bad for not excepting 4
They are bad if after a time do not except it 4
Neither of you are bad but its very sad 15
You love who you and you can not change it 13
They should not go so far to the point of harrasement 9
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  • dappled
    11 years ago | pl

    Nobody can force you into a relationship with them, no matter how hard they try. If you are polite and sensitive when you decline their offer, you've done nothing wrong.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Typically people are more attracted to those who they know are already into them, but it is not a guarantee they will reciprocate affection.

    You are not a bad person for not having feelings for a person who has feeling for you. Neither are they bad for hoping you will return their affections.

    I had a boyfriend who had a serious crush on me (he couldn't even speak when he came near me it got so bad) for an entire year before I finally caved and went on a date with him. He was good-looking too; black hair, a vulpine grin, and sea green eyes. I'm glad I have it a go because he was the best kisser ever!

    Then again, I also knew another guy, a coworker, who'd had a long-time crush on me too and when I finally found out and turned him down, he punched his fist through a wall. That scared me.

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  • mixwell
    11 years ago

    you cant be considered bad for not liking someone and it wouldnt be your fault that they persue you soo much. if you dont like someone that way no amount of winning over will work and you shouldnt feel obligated to be with someone solely on that fact that theyre putting soo much effort

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    It's hard.. It's kind of like that quote "The more you squeeze the more it slips away." I personally find persuance adorable...but I guess if it was someone I couldn't see myself with that would be bad...

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  • cigs
    11 years ago

    sometimes doing some one a favor and shit like that doesn't always work out the way you thought it would.

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  • LadySimplicia
    11 years ago

    I would die if someone harassed me in such a manner. Gifts make me uncomfortable, and any other signs of heavy pursuit.

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  • DavidS.
    11 years ago

    @thisissomuchfun...a "vulpine grin".?...I am not sure if that is the cutest thing I heard or the most pretentious thing..anyway it made me laugh..

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  • EccentricWeird
    11 years ago

    Women: choosing the sperm since 4004 B.C.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Clearly OP is a woman. Way to over think something.

    In man's mind - That girl that I really like, doesn't like me back. Fuck. Oh well, next girl.

    In girl's mind - Oh am I a bad person for not liking the guy that likes me?

    WTF

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