Is it messed up to be able to shut of emotions?

well to make long story short i was severally picked on and bullied for most of my young life (around 6-11) until one day i got fed up and beat the people up till they were in the hospital. well... the thing is when a person that i knew died i did not even care i stopped caring for people and most of all my best friend which is my girlfriend. i try to give my feelings and all up i talked to my youth leaders and lots of people about it and i cant seem to let things in like on a personal level. i am a christian and to say that i lost my emotions is contradictory. i have even lost the ability to cry when sad things happen. i actually cant remember the last time i cried over something sad. but ya please add comments.

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  • BirdyMojo

    Totally normal.... my mom and I are the same way. Her more than myself, sometimes I'll cry if it is extremely sad. But we have went through quite a lot ourselves so I guess emotional instability or insecurity can cause what you have. I think you have emotions, but you have physically made it so your body can't grieve naturally... This is normal, but maybe as you grow older you will change a bit or something might happen?

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  • JaiHo_YouAreMyDestiny

    I hate bullies. They make me miserable.
    I guess you're.. incapable of feeling?
    I've heard off that. There is prbably some medical related cure. I don't nkow. I'm sorry, though. I hope you get... better? Try and find some proffesional help, please. I hope this does not lead to anything serious.

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  • Bazaza

    get help! i wish to prevent anything bad from happening.

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  • spotzilla88

    I do this sometimes too

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  • lovecats

    I can relate to a lot of what you have said and I've been diagnosed as having Socipathic tendencies, so perhaps you should see a therapist :|

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  • sparrowfeed

    welcome to half of Western, capitalist, Fucked-Up civilization where emotions are a liability.

    As far as I know you're more normal than most people. Depressive disorders are ridiculously common.

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  • Chooseyourweapon

    I launched a campaign several years ago to wipe negative emotions from my brain, such as anger, hatred, sadness, fear, jealousy, embarrassment, etc. It was quite a success. While it is impossible to completely remove an emotion, one can, with meditation, have enormous control over how it affects his thinking. I too do not cry during sad occasions. Additionally, I do not get mad when people insult me, I do not hate people who commit atrocious crimes, I do not feel fear in the face of thugs, dogs, rejection, etc., I can rebuke an entire assembly hall full of strangers with flamboyance and swagger without a single quiver from my knees. You ought to put your natural emotionlessness to the test, you may find it to be a valuable asset.

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  • angelbaby1980

    Go to a therapist before you develop antisocial personality disorder (become a sociopath).

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  • starr

    you are subconsciously feeling that5 there is still a threat to come. your huard is up because whatever they picked on you is probably still there or hass left a scar super deep.
    you have to learn to accepth whatever it is they picked on you for. grow up and accept it already youll feel better!

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    • brad015

      this has been awhile since i last posted or wrote anything but i think it was not as much as the bullying or that it just i needed to do so at the time to not let it scar me emotionally but then later after it stopped(by violent measures) i sorta liked to be able to go through this life with virtually no emotions.

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  • Darksithoverlord

    I have the same and it's been giving me real problems lately because this wounderful lady has woken feelings I've been cut off for so long. I have trouble dealing with them at times. Just don't ignore them if they show.

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  • Kittycat101

    Im so sorry! i hope you get better T^T thats so sad people shouldnt have treated you that way. mannn maybe you hate people now in general because of what a couple people did to you.though im just like you i was never bullied or anything but i always thought showing emotions was a sign of weakness (Ex. crying) but its a natural thing so i think you should focus on what you like you know? what makes you happy? even if its small like a cute kitty? do you go awwww when you see it? then you still have emotions right? i hope you get better ne? dont let those bullies ruin your life!!! they're NOT worth it~

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  • Bazaza

    im not sure its been awhile since i took psychology but you may be a sociopath this could be awesome if you use your powers for good but more often then not it leads to serial killers

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  • hannahxowants

    I'm exactly the same.

    I've had trauma in my life, at a very young age, and it affected my so severely. Like, I went through so many different pains. So, gradually, I taught myself how to stop feeling. The thing is, I hate that I can't even feel real excitement. It's almost as if all my emotions are underneath my skin, but they won't come out.

    I feel as if I can't go back now that I see things in a different way.

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  • biblebashingtreehugger

    i understand you because i was bullied since the age of 5 and am sill being bullied by people younger than me because of confidence issues caused by the original bullies. its probably because you grew up being treated like crap that you show and feel little emotion because (even if only subconsiosly) you feel as if nobody would care anyway, the fact that you where able to post this shows that you can show emotion as you showed that you where upset by not being able to cry anymore. i recomend that you try to figure out why you like someone, it will make you realise you do care about them.

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  • AnabolicDude

    Yea dude its normal. I dont bottle things up, i just "lost" them as well. After a gf, i just got coldhearted...makes life easier though

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    • GreyScale

      You need to take a step back and reexamine what is important in your life. Refocus upon Jesus and pray more. Become more involved in your church. In addition, ask for forgiveness, and ask that Jesus once again touches upon your life.

      Tiny note, you may just be bored with your life. Besides the obvious Jesus thing, consider spicing up your life with some new things and new people.

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      • Artanis186

        ...ha

        Anywho, ya, I think so. I have lost most sense of anger/upsetness. I actually challenge people to upset me now, noone has been able to. I fake being angry sometimes though, nothing too serious, just to fuck around with people. I kinda like fighting, but noly with people I am closely matched with and won't be a total ass about it. Otherwise I hate fighting, I more like, wrestling around. Hmmm, how to word it... Like, fighting, but without too many consequences for either of us afterwards. I did this twice with my one friend and I thought it was fun. Though I don't do it often, twice last year, and that's it. For now.

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  • Xerxes

    Well i'm Hollow

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  • Your apathy is normal for the most part, you just have a tendency to bottle things up inside, and you have to learn how to control that or it will cause you to do something you greatly regret later in life.

    I have a similar problem, but I think because I am a women I still am in touch with my emotions more than you would be so sometimes I do cry over things that emotionally move me, such as patriotism or maybe a movie every once in awhile. I mean unless you really care about something it's not going to make you cry. I also have an anger problem. It may not seem like I do, but if somebody does something that just hits me the wrong way that is all it takes and I just blow up in people's faces. This hasn't happened in quite sometime, but I still think I have a problem with it.

    Most of the time I don't care that somebody is short on cash or needs a ride, and most of the time I don't care to hear drama in somebody else's life, but I guess the reason why is because they don't care enough about me for me to care enough about them. I think you should try to decipher which people really love you and care unconditionally, and then you might be a happier person, and more in tune with your emotional side.

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  • I wish I had your emotions. I'd like to be hollow inside.

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  • SisoXD

    i wish i had that gift :( i guess you'd rather have that thn get really overwhelmed and over reactive about situations

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  • Spritzy

    Either you're depressed, or you've got the guts to think it's cool being emotionless.

    I know this guy who thinks it's cool to brag that he's emotionless. Well it's not. It's lame. He isn't even emotionless. I hate it when people try to to cover up their feelings to look bad - ___

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