Is it love or control ?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and 3 months ! We've had a series of break-ups and make ups ! Recently I just had enough and told him that I had to walk away from the relationship bc I love him to much for both of us to hurt ! I still want him to be apart of my life because he was my first love . The thing is he's just so controlling . The other day he told me that he would want me to give up college for him and just live in a small house with him and enjoy life . I told him that he was being controlling and he said it was love and i don't know which one it is ?

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  • joolia03
    8 years ago

    That's def controlling and an insecurity he is dealing with. He sounds like he's insecure, therefore, he's controlling wherever he can be to make sure he gets it his way when really, thats not reality. It's not love, it's controlling and possibly obsessive.

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  • PlebolaVirus
    8 years ago

    Giving up a college education for something as trivial and stupid as love is a truly ridiculous decision. Tell your boyfriend to fuck off or shut up.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It's control.

    Everyone has their own misconception about the meaning of love; however, everyone who has honestly ever experienced this deep feeling for another can agree that along with all the many meanings behind the word, none are harmful. Control is harmful, because it restricting, and a big part of love is acceptance; love is freedom to be yourself.

    Your boyfriend may have a lot of affection toward you, but if he's trying to control your life from the small things, to the big things such as your education and future without your say, then he most likely doesn't love you as a person, but cherish you like an object or a pet. With a pet or an object, there's full control in where it goes and what it does; you're a person, not a pet. If he can't love you like a person, then end the relationship for good.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    It's controlling: if it were love he'd want you to do whatever is best for you and giving up college would not be a good thing for you

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  • Rusty-Rider
    8 years ago

    Relationships are a dime-a-dozen. An education is forever.
    There are a gazillion fish in the sea. Get your college degree at any cost!
    Screw him and his controlling ways.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    He's dragging you into his world of failure. Any guy should be encouraging his significant other to be working at the top of her abilities. Say goodbye.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds like neither. Sounds like he's looking for a cheap maid/cook to care for his house.
    Yeah, I think you do have better things to do with your life.

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  • Leonard_Hatred
    8 years ago

    He's got the right idea. It's how all good relationships should be.

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