Is it just me

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Is it just me or does it annoy anyone else how girls say their looking for a good guy,mr. Right, etc but if you try to talk to them they wont look at you twice cause your not driving a bently or lamboghini etc or cause youre not wearing a $1,000 out fit dont get me wrong i dont dress like a bum i actually keep up on my looks but still i mean how can they say their looking for a decent/nice guy but their being stick up also known from where im from their called "being choosy" aka gold diggers, but yet they get mad when they get played an cheated on by the guy with the brand new bently and then they think well maybe i should of gave the guy driving the pos car a chance

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  • driedroses
    10 years ago

    Lots of men and women do this:
    ~Complain about not having a good girlfriend/boyfriend
    ~Chase after assholes

    I will never understand...

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      I can't say I understand either but...

      It seems a lot of people who have very low self self-esteem don't want anyone like themselves so instead they develop a very bitter and entitled attitude whereby they only want others for their looks or money instead of concentrating on those with whom they actually have something in common.

      This attitude also seems to be quite prevalent among those who fear emotional intimacy and commitment. By always chasing after what they can't have they never have to actually face their fears but can instead wallow in self pity and see themselves as victims. The victim identity allows these people to continue perpetuate an attitude of entitlement; it's a vicious cycle.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    There's a big difference between "being choosy" and being a gold digger (not that either is inherently bad). And you must be hanging out with the wrong girls, because I know lots of guys with girlfriends who can't even drive :P

    You are far too bitter to be a "good guy".

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I think at some point the OP was but being single can turn a person into a cynic. I've seen that happen many times. You either find a relationship and be happy; or stay single long enough to see yourself become the asshole. The OP means well, but he's just frustrated.

      OP if you're reading this all I can say is that yes, you are right. Women can be fickle, guys can be to, but usually men are more honest in their shallowness. The best advice I have is just to not give up hope, not every girl is the same.

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      • transformer05
        10 years ago

        Yes i am frustrated

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        Interesting. I think many girls are open about being shallow, but only to other girls and people who are close friends with them. They are honest to their closer friends about it, but they don't want to be honest to everyone because being openly objectifying isn't seen as a very feminine trait. Then there are some of those girls who aren't honest about being shallow... and others who genuinely aren't shallow at all, and are just attracted to the confidence that often comes with being a rich, good-looking man.

        I also don't think some people, men and women, are as shallow as they say they are. It's unpopular to admit being attracted to people who aren't "mainstream attractive", so some people put on a facade of only being attracted to those people. When it comes down to it, those people aren't necessarily that shallow - just insecure about talking about sex and discussing openly what they like.

        Moreover, I just don't have any patience for anyone who doesn't have enough empathy to realise that just because someone is having sex doesn't mean they have forgone their right to be dissatisfied with their life. Anyone has a right to feel dissatisfied, and we shouldn't dismiss their feelings just because they have something that would satisfy us. They have different needs because they're in a different position, and I didn't get the impression that the OP understood that.

        I do take your point, and partly I'm playing devil's advocate with this reply. Maybe I'm the one who doesn't have enough empathy to imagine feeling like him :P

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        • Anime7
          10 years ago

          Do you have a reply? I'd be curious to hear it.

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          • dom180
            10 years ago

            I'll get back to you in the morning if all goes to plan. I've drunk a bit too much to reply right now, but I'll make sure to reply ;P

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            • Anime7
              10 years ago

              Sounds like you have an interesting life there. Alright, if you have a hangover then I wouldn't blame you if you don't reply right away. Take you're time is what I'm saying, I just find the subject interesting is all. Get well soon.

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        • Anime7
          10 years ago

          Honestly I think shallow is sort of expected by women. I think it's just that a lot of girls just preach that they like personality more than looks, probably because they dislike guys who say the opposite. But in actuality they are just as shallow. Perhaps you're right in it not being feminine. But I don't think that's why girls don't admit to it. I think it's just because they don't want to be viewed as shallow as men.

          As for the whole insecurity, well that one I'm kind iffy on. I understand that if you say a person, who is "mainstream attractive," is ugly. Then yes people would look at you weirdly, but at least you'll be sticking up to your guns. I usually get told by friends that I like Plain Janes. But I feel that with woman they can be more insecure about that stuff. Not sure why.

          I do agree with you on that third paragraph. It's also similar to how people dismiss another person's problems simply because his parents have a good income.

          But back to in turns of the OP, I can relate to what he is saying. You seem like you are a nice person and I know that you've been in a relationship. But to the OP (and myself) it has not happened yet. So the best you can do is hold on to this hope. And hope is a very hard thing to hold on after awhile.

          Women can be just as shallow as men, if not more so. It just really sucks when they won't admit it.

          By the way you're empathy is fine.

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  • Sunshine:)
    10 years ago

    Well, I'm a girl...So I kinda understand. It makes me uncomfortable if a guy really wants me. But on the other hand, if I ask a guy out and he accepts, then I'm perfectly happy. Does that make any sense?

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    • transformer05
      10 years ago

      Yes,, it makes sence :)

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      • Sunshine:)
        10 years ago

        Okay, good.

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  • Briden
    10 years ago

    Or maybe you're just not attractive?
    Sorry if that sounds rude but you generalized all women, using a stereotype to basically attack them.
    What if they're not with the guys bc of their dumb ass cars (which i and most girls couldnt give less of a fuck about tbh), but because they're attractive (keep in mind most popular guys have cars/are at least somewhat wealthy, but they are also attractive). This is a fallacy called "Post hoc ergo propter hoc", i suggest you look it up before generalizing women by the golddiggers stereotype, they might be superficial (like basically 99% of guys are), but fucking check yourself before calling them all "golddiggers".

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    • transformer05
      10 years ago

      Well you also dont come from the same area as me, cause from where im from u can go to any street corner an get any drug u want a Girlfriend for the night and catch a std all for less then 20.00 so yea,so finding girls that arnt "trickin" is hard to come by , i didnt mean to attack all girls, and i have enough self confidence to know im atleast somewhat attractive cause i stay in shape and i have all my teeth an their not all fucked up an rotted, and not to sound like a dick but i am somewhat wealthy because i own my own company that i started from nothing myself and been successfully stayed in business for going on 2 years and im not even 24 yet :p

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Your pursuing the wrong girls for the wrong reasons.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    People never get satisfied.

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