Is it healthy that my partner does this?

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My partner gets mad at me if I don't make him a coffee in the morning and he likes to make it seem like I'm crazy when he doesn't want to hear me talk about him helping out around the house, he doesn't like my family and he makes that obvious even to them. I just don't know why I'm with him anymore if all he wants is to make me believe that I'm insane for wanting him to treat me right.

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago | pl

    Gaslighting (trying to make someone doubt their sanity) and attempting to isolate someone from their social network are both emotional abuse.

    It seems like you've so far been psychologically strong enough to resist his efforts to manipulate you, but the odds are very good that he's going to persist and escalate.

    If you value your mental health and want to maintain your sense of self, you need to leave him. This rejection will be a huge blow to his ego, so you need to be prepared for him to make grandiose gestures which are supposed to show how much he loves you and to promise that he'll change. Focus on all the negative shit you've had to deal with, remember that as far as he's concerned the relationship is all about his needs being met, don't buy his BS and walk away.

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  • Kermitt
    3 years ago

    He obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings. There are words to describe him, but as you're a lady, I won't use them

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    Leave him

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  • Inkmaster
    3 years ago

    Sounds like a real piece of work. If he's not treating you right, then you need to get out of that relationship.

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  • Kool_owl
    3 years ago

    He's controlling you and youre letting him do it by staying with him .
    It's just a matter of time before he starts to hit you .
    Get out before it's to late he's abusive .

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  • thepuppet
    3 years ago

    please leave him :( and find support in people you trust (family, friends) to help you through the process since he's probably gonna try and fight back

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  • YummyRee
    3 years ago

    He seems like real asshole, leave him.

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  • Ellenna
    3 years ago

    You are very sane in wondering why you're still with this manipulative control freak: it would be totaly sane to leave him and don't look back. Staying with him validates his behavior.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Dump that piece of shit!

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    Holy crap are we dating? If it’s you get off this site and make me a coffee you crazy bitch, and tell your parents I said they can go fuck themselves.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Lol funny guy over here

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      • Tommythecaty
        3 years ago

        You never said I was funny before. Must be your fucking parents fault.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Dump him. He won’t change, ever.

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    • Duskwing
      3 years ago

      Why not

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      • my_life_my_way
        3 years ago

        People don’t change. He is gaslighting and manipulating her and that’s working for him in the relationship right now. She just needs to stop falling for it and leave him so he can find another girl to do that to.

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