Is it hard for a paraplegic to get married in your country?

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I have niticed that people are very accepting of people with disabilities, they lead a very normal life compare to what I live in India. I am 41,year old paraplegic and since past two years have decided to get married. I have met a few woman who didnt mind the situation but when it came to their families I had faced a lot of opposition. unfortunately couldnt find a woman strong enough to go against her family, sometimes I should go for a non Indian woman who is willing to relocate.. What are your thoughts

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  • CountessDouche
    7 years ago

    The caste system and the rigid family traditions are still very much alive in India, which probably makes finding marriage difficult in your situation.

    There are many other cultures that don't share those traditions, and many people who would see no issue marrying a paraplegic, but if you want to marry a person from another culture, you'll face other difficulties (like whether your family will accept them, whether they are willing to move and adopt your traditions).

    I wish you luck. Everyone deserves to find love, but nobody said it was easy.

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    • pranksterb
      7 years ago

      I feel in my case caste isnt an issue, because all thise women got married in other castes. Their families were ok about them marrying in different caste but my wheelchair seemed like a taboo or they dont understand how independent I am in spite of being in a chair. My family is pretty liberal and we accept people from different race and culture with open hearts. Its not that everyone is saying no but the ones that interest me dont have the guts to go against family. I dont wanna marry someone who is willing but i do t conne t with because that wouldnt be fair to her or myself. But the west is very open minded and well educated about spinal cord injury

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      • CountessDouche
        7 years ago

        I think you have a very wonderful attitude and so does your family. It's good that they will accept your choice of a spouse as long as she makes you happy, and that should make it easier if you do chose to pursue a relationship with someone from another country, if you see fit.

        I'm sorry that you felt unaccepted by the families of women who otherwise accepted you. Indian culture is very different from western culture in this way, as a woman's family can carry much more weight. In many other cultures, women are not afraid to ignore the wishes of their families...but I believe families should only care that the woman is happy. If you are apple to make someone happy, that's all that matters.

        Perhaps you should broaden your horizons and seek someone elsewhere. I have no doubt that if you look openly, you will be able to find someone. I'm American, and I must say that if I truly connected with someone, I wouldn't care if they happened to be paraplegic. I think that is a common attitude in many countries, and if your family is accepting, that would make things much easier.

        I hope that you find what you are looking for.

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        • pranksterb
          7 years ago

          Thank you so much, I have lived in the US and beleive me after lufe American women have been the second best teachers for me

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          • CountessDouche
            7 years ago

            You're very welcome : )

            I hope everything works out for you. You seem like a wonderful person.

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  • pranksterb
    7 years ago

    thx

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