Is it common to abuse your partner just because of their beliefs?
I've been going out with a charismatic Christian [whatever that means in secular English!] for a little over two years.
TL;DR - is it normal to abuse someone who's provided amost nothing but love simply because you have completely different beliefs; and to feel terrible after having potentially destroyed the relationship but at the same time not at all sorry for your own beliefs?
He's incredibly loving and genuinely affectionate with me - calls me cute/beautiful,compliments things about me that I hate, hugs and kisses every day, likes to make sure I'm OK - and we both talk about manga, things that have happened to us, our degrees, TV, manga, films, sometimes girls we like among other things. If I'm feeling especially low, he'll cook for me.
We get on well a lot of the time.... Except when it comes to our beliefs.
Then it's like guns blazing. I've laughed in his face and called him stupid for believing what he does because I consider it extreme.
I hate the fact that he wants to wait until marriage (I still don't know the actual reason why) and it pisses me off how he'd like me to go to church and believe like he does and how he worries about me going to Hell and leading a normal, human life while he goes to Heaven and sits around doing nothing with God for 1000 years.
Apparently he made the choice to be a Xtian himself at the age of 18, even with having been brought up by fairly devout Xtian parents. However, I still believe he was brainwashed on some level.
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The last straw came yesterday. He casually mentioned that Rob Bell(some preacher, I think) was performing in our local area next month or the month after. I instantly felt my hackles rise and asked him what it was about. He told me and we ended up arguing, going over the same things we always go over when arguing about our beliefs.
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When he spoke to her on Skype, his mum suggested that it might be better if he didn't talk about Christianity in front of me any more.