Is it common to abuse your partner just because of their beliefs?

I've been going out with a charismatic Christian [whatever that means in secular English!] for a little over two years.
TL;DR - is it normal to abuse someone who's provided amost nothing but love simply because you have completely different beliefs; and to feel terrible after having potentially destroyed the relationship but at the same time not at all sorry for your own beliefs?

He's incredibly loving and genuinely affectionate with me - calls me cute/beautiful,compliments things about me that I hate, hugs and kisses every day, likes to make sure I'm OK - and we both talk about manga, things that have happened to us, our degrees, TV, manga, films, sometimes girls we like among other things. If I'm feeling especially low, he'll cook for me.

We get on well a lot of the time.... Except when it comes to our beliefs.
Then it's like guns blazing. I've laughed in his face and called him stupid for believing what he does because I consider it extreme.

I hate the fact that he wants to wait until marriage (I still don't know the actual reason why) and it pisses me off how he'd like me to go to church and believe like he does and how he worries about me going to Hell and leading a normal, human life while he goes to Heaven and sits around doing nothing with God for 1000 years.

Apparently he made the choice to be a Xtian himself at the age of 18, even with having been brought up by fairly devout Xtian parents. However, I still believe he was brainwashed on some level.

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The last straw came yesterday. He casually mentioned that Rob Bell(some preacher, I think) was performing in our local area next month or the month after. I instantly felt my hackles rise and asked him what it was about. He told me and we ended up arguing, going over the same things we always go over when arguing about our beliefs.
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When he spoke to her on Skype, his mum suggested that it might be better if he didn't talk about Christianity in front of me any more.

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Comments ( 12 )
  • coolio75650932

    YOU DOUCH BAG I CANT BELIEVE YOU HOW COULD YOU ABUSE A CHRISTIAN (although im an athiest) YOU JERK!

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  • It's impossible for there to be peace between people who see the world differently.

    Leave.

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  • aussiewolf

    well its only going to get worse the longer you are together. i would suggest you be with someone who has the same beliefs as you.

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  • BoredGuy

    oh common, he believes in a god, how clever he can be? I generally laugh with morons too.

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  • kateh

    He seems too good for you.... I hope you find a way to calm down and try to be as nice as him.

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    • BigKahunaBurger

      Yeah, telling his girlfriend unless she submits to being dragged to church and suddenly converting to his belief system she is going to rot in hell for all eternity is so nice. Sounds like a real catch!

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  • Demundo

    Such differences can work if you are both open-minded but I suspect you will only end up strangling each other so it is better to move on. Two of my neighbours have been married for fifty years despite her being Hindu and him being Anglican. They have gradually become Anglican-Hindus, going to church and temple together, celebrating Christams, Diwali, Easter and Holi. They had a church wedding followed by a Hindu ceremony. They raised their children in both traditions and none of them seem to have turned out bad. So it can work but I don't think you two have that capability.

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  • Charlie075

    Just walk away.

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  • layercake350

    Why are you using this guy? You are selfish. You give all of womanhood a bad name. Either accept his beliefs and keep your mouth shut or drop the relationship already! Whiner

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  • TyLee

    No it's not normal because if your beliefs are so different than you should break up. However I warn you that when you do break up you will miss being with a good loving Christian man. But it's your choice don't stay if you don't have the same beliefs... Think of all the problems in the future like raising kids etc...

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  • BigKahunaBurger

    Fuck any opinion about him being "too good for you". He's clearly trying to convert you as much as you would like him to see your point of view, but it's unlikely to happen. He needs to find a good Christian virgin and you need to fuck marriage off and get laid. Dump him.

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    • BigKahunaBurger

      Also, I don't think you were abusive; you just cannot deal with the difference in beliefs and I think you feel guilty because he does these things for you, you clearly care for each other and you see the inevitability of the relationship's death. All the more reason to end it swiftly before you both get hurt more.

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