Is it cheating if.........

Cheating doesn’t change because the gender did that has nothing to do with it it’s the actions.

I'm not making any moral judgments here, but a "full blown sexual experience" with anyone other than a spouse or committed partner is cheating.

Assuming both your partner and her husband believe you and your gf to be in committed monogamous relationships, of course it's cheating, stop kidding yourself.

Yes it's cheating.

You've cheated and now trying to justify it in this post.

At the end of the day, you're lying to your boyfriend.

Just stop. A good relationship is not built on deception and this is just a slippery slope for further deception which will eventually destroy your relationships and make everyone miserable.

Your story is the stuff of male jerk off material. And maybe some women too. Lol

Doesn't matter how hot it is. This is wrong.

Having sex secretly with someone who’s not your committed partner is cheating by my thinking. Would you like it if you found out her guy and yours had been having sex over the past year? Never know, though, the guys might be ok with you continuing this if you come clean with them.

It's fine to hug and maybe even cuddle as close friends, but like sex isn't ok. You can't justify yourself in this situation

I have zero sympathy for cheaters! That's a low, dirty and cowardly stab in the back.
Does it matter if you cheat with a man, or a woman?! You still cheat! It's wrong! When you commit to someone, you commit 100 percent!

How would you feel if your boyfriend, or husband fucked some chick who was his bff... You'd probably throw shit at him and throw a tantrum, cause how dare he right?! Fuck off! Cheaters deserve to be cheated on. If I was your boyfriend, I'd fuck all of your bff woman friends just to teach you a lesson.

I have never cheated on girl I've been with and I never will! When I'm in a relationship, I fully commit.

Physical intimacy creates a unique, personal bond between two people. Emotions are fleeting. You cheated.

Yes you are cheating.

How can you say you're in a committed relationship?
Obviously you're not.
I don't care, it's your life.
But, committed means something.
Would you feel it's ok if you found he was doing things in bathrooms with guys?
Unless your partner knows, and approves.
It's cheating.

Just because ya'll are girls, this is STILL cheating. Both of you are in committed relationships, but this experience went sexual. And you guys have done it MULTIPLE times. Think of it this way- let's say your boyfriend became your husband. But you find out he's been having sex/sexual experiences with another man. Won't this hurt you? This would hurt about anybody! Think about the man she's married to and god, if they have children? This is devastating, man.

Honestly, it's denial. You're both trying to come up with excuses to tell yourself it's not cheating if it's the same gender. UNLESS if your partner and her partner are ok with open relationships, then it's okay. If not then...? Pretty fucked up.

It's cheating. You're just making excuses so you can keep cheating is all. I like the fact that I've never cheated on anyone, it's a source of pride to me! You're fooling yourself, because you are entitled, and don't care to stop is all.

Of course it's cheating. Sex with someone else, sneaking around hiding it from your partners, how could you not think this is cheating?

You say your guys don't have anything to worry about because you're not going to become emotionally entangled. So is "cheating" in your book falling in love with someone else when you're in a committed relationship? The fact is that most men are pretty damn good at compartmentalising sex and love. So I guess you wouldn't mind if your boyfriend had an impulsive screw in the alley behind some bar just so long as there were no emotions involved, only lust, and he didn't fall in love with her?

You can try to justify and excuse it as much as you want, but a lesbian encounter counts as real sex. If sexual fidelity is one of the ground rules for your relationship and your friend's marriage, then you were cheating that first time. Since you've continued to have sexual encounters with your BFF, you're two-timing your boyfriend.

Personally, I think if a woman I was involved with had ever told me that such a thing had happened I'd be more intrigued and aroused than pissed off or hurt. Maybe that's the compartmentalising thing. But I'm not your boyfriend or her husband, and I have known guys who reacted extremely badly when they discovered their partner had had such an encounter. Some guys are so insecure that they react violently on hearing about such things.

I suggest you and your BFF should tread very carefully, and you might both want to spend some time thinking about and discussing what exactly your relationship is about. Regardless of what you say, it sounds like there is an emotional component, and you might want to think about where you want things to go from here.

I’m completely for opening relationships I personally prefer it. But that’s when both people are aware that that’s what it is. If I was in his position and I found out I wouldn’t be made that it happened I’d be mad and I’d throw your ass to the curb because of it being hidden from me. A lie by omission is still a lie and would show that you can’t be trusted.

I must say that I recently changed my opinion on this matter. I used to think it was ok as long as my partner knew about it. After my hubby full blown cheated on my I was done. The rest of our marriage will be with one man and one woman in the bed

Same sex or not, married or not, I don't care how you spin it, letting someone else touch you and you them when you are in a relationship (not just dating) is cheating.
There is NO way for one person to devote themselves to two people adequately. People who are pro open relatinships have other issues.
At some point, you want only 1 person to love and cherish. Eventually, that person will want the same.

If the shoe was on the other foot and your man was having sex with his male friend ...would this be ok with you?
My guess is NOT!!!

I wish my wife was as exciting as you

What difference does it make if you're both women? It's still sleeping with someone else outside the relationship aka CHEATING.

Would you tell you partners yes go to go, no then it's cheating

If you need to ask "is it cheating if I..." then, 9 times out of ten, the answer is yes.

Any instance in which you are not being faithful to your partner is cheating. End of discussion.

I mean it's cheating but "ehh", I imagine a lot of guy wouldn't be too blown up about it.

Having sex with someone who isn't your partner is cheating. This is a stupid question.

How do you think your hubby would react? Because in my case, I would want to know all the juicy details. For example, how did it progress from snuggling to a sexual activity? Who made the first move, and what was it?

It is cheating and having sex with her is not the issue but only not bringing it to their attention is . If my woman wanted to try her friend out for a more emotional or feminine connection , sure , but please do tell me .

It's cheating if you never decided as a couple you can have sex with another woman. Best of telling him and hope he's understanding cause I personally wouldn't mind if my partner had sex with a woman. It's a man that would be beyond piss about.

Cheating cunt.

If you’re enjoying it and are okay with it, enjoy!

Not cheating if the guy gets to join in I say