Is it better to live by yourself or with your boyfriend at 18?

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So I am currently living with my boyfriend I've known for a year. Last year I was living with my mom. Life was good. Woke up in my own comfy bed with my crazy hair along with smelly morning breath not worrying about a thing just what I was gonna wear to a date that night to see my boyfriend. I had my own girly room, got to see my brother and mom everyday, do my own thing and enjoy "me time". Things changed completely. I thought living with my boyfriend would be the most exciting thing in the world (which it was when we first moved in together). Nothing feels the same. If anything I feel less motivated for the future like college and a job. I miss that feeling of messaging, and planning when to see eachother and how it felt when he knocked on the door. It felt more exciting and I was more happy to see him, even a phone call from him made my whole day. But now I feel more stress, we fight so much, and barely get any butterflies when he comes home from work. I really like this guy though. Is it just the feeling of freedom I miss and that's why I feel this way? Or is it because I'm too young right now? Will we have those feelings again if I do move back with my mom? What should I do?

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Playing house tends to be overrated.

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    You had a romantic ideal of co-habitation and now you don't. You live, you learn. Try living with friends, not a lover, to figure out how to be yourself outside the parents home.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds like the 'honeymoon' period has ended for you. If you were to write up a list of pros and cons about your present situation, it sounds like the cons would win, hands down.
    It would probably be best if you were honest with your guy and gave him his freedom to go meet the right girl, rather than invest any more time in what is surely a relationship that is dying.

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  • 4y4homie
    8 years ago

    Get out of there. I think you're too young. Are you even paying rent, or did he just take you under his wing, as a live-in girlfriend?

    Living by yourself, or with others means you take on a lot of responsibilities, that used to be done by your parents. Chores, bills, groceries, laundry, dishes, etc. If you can't manage it, or you're with someone who can't - then it can get ugly and lead to despair.

    Especially if you're not working or in college - you'd be dying for any excuse to get out of your apartment and the feeling of your life stagnating.

    If I'm wrong, then maybe you and your fella aren't meant to live together, and he's causing you dread.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Tell him you don't want to live with him anymore. Make sure he knows you aren't breaking up (unless you want to do that too).

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