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Do you think it's better to love someone romantically or to never fall in love? There's other types of love too so really, unless you never had a caring family (including pets) or friends, you're never truly without love so romantic love is never neccessary unless you truly desire it.
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Without a parallel universe were the opposite happened and u compare, you can truely never know
Being in love is a risk. If you lose it, I imagine it is the worst thing you'll ever feel.
Never loving is absolute. You'll never be in that negative love deprived state, but you'll never experience love. That being said, you can fill your life with other joyous things that aren't "love" to compensate emotionally.
So I would say the "better" choice would not to love.
I can only speak for myself, but I'm glad for the experience of having been in love even though it has ended. I'm glad for anything that widens my emotional register, especially if it does so in a positive direction which love definitely did for me.
Romantic love is a very distinct feeling, as different from other types of love as it is any other emotion. It does not cover the same ground as the other feelings we use the word "love" for, and it is no replacement for or infringement on those "other loves". Romantic love is absolutely not necessary to live a fulfilled life, but it definitely enhances a fulfilled life.
You think about her all the time, you want to be with her, she makes you feel special, you would do anything for her, she rejects you, humiliates you, makes you feel so fucking small, you wish you could take everything back, all your plans are fucked, all that time was wasted, FUCK FUCK FUCK THAT FUCKING BITCH!
Yeah, I'll go with not being in love.
I've been here.
What got me out was the realization that the love I felt was mine.
To expect/demand to be loved back was the root of the pain and suffering.
She didn't make you feel special. You felt special because you had love.
It is still there.
Give it to someone else.
No time was wasted. It was all to prepare you for what comes next (or who)
Finding someone to love and be with is part of life? Is it not? Having never been in love though I don't know, but I hope I can find someone to love and who will love me for me.
I know what it's like to like someone and them not feel the same, and I have been hurt, jealousy is another thing I hate feeling when it comes to liking someone.
But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger eh?
Life isn't constant. If it were, we wouldn't learn anything or grow into better people.
Being in relationships will teach you a lot of different things. So will losing them.
After every person you have loved, you can be confident that you are a different person.
Experience is one way to gain both knowledge and wisdom, if you pay attention to the lessons and learn something.
Life is a series of lessons and they most definitely include love.
If you never loved at all, you would have never experienced the positive parts, nor learned anything for the negative ones. You would end up being a person who hardly grew mentally at all, and that would be a pretty sad waste of time on this Earth in my opinion.
Sometimes I'd say never at all. Like in that song "Hello, This Is Joanie". It's some girl who sings her answerphone message and it's all light and wonderful. Then the guy in the song drinks some wine and shouts at her so she leaves his house in a bit of a state.
A few days go by and he's missing her but every time he rings, he just gets her machine. Then someone else tells him she was killed in a fatal car crash so he's upset for a while but then he works out he can still phone her answering machine and hear her. So he keeps on doing it, like some morbid OCD stalker.
Then the next thing you know, he's howling away with old "machine" Joanie and saying sorry to her answering machine. But not even when the tape has started playing. He's saying all this while her message is still spouting, like he's forgotten that's not when you leave your message. Meanwhile, nobody has talked about a funeral for Joanie or even an autopsy so she might still be in her car at the bottom of a cliff or something.
In this sense, it'd be better if he didn't fall in love because it makes him an obsessive maniac who has forgotten how to use an answering machine and who would leave his girlfriend at the bottom of a hill while he just goes after that damn answering machine again and again, howling up a damn storm.
It's a very sorry tale. But also I did hear about a couple once who were happy. Well, temporarily. Then that Monica Lewinsky woman got in on the act.
Loving, and unfortunately losing are a pretty important part of life.
If my first wife hadn't left (and it did hurt for a long time), I wouldn't have gotten together with my second wife. When she left, it hurt even worse, for longer, and I thought I'd be alone for the rest of my life. But, don't it beat all; I'm now with a gal much more beautiful than either wife (and far younger), more affectionate and giving, a better partner, with much less baggage.
So, with two failed marriages, the loss of one fortune, (I learned from the first time and the second wife got nothing but a shitty car) and all the pain, I can assure you that the good times far out numbered the bad.
For those of you who feel that "Not Being In Love" is better, I would highly recommend you rethink your answer. Life and love have a funny way of fooling you.
Never having been in love
It may not be true for everyone but I can never focus on the good times, only that they ended