Is it bad to be with someone to scorn another?

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Ok I have a boyfriend we are engaged soon to be married,And we are happy and I do love him,but the truth behind why we are together is because his brother turned me down when I asked him out and he doesn't know that I had the biggest crush on his brother and had liked his younger brother before I met him.So when his brother turned me down I was heartbroken because I had thought he liked me and might have given me a chance,but leading up to this I did know he had an older brother,I just hadn't met him in person but I had seen him around and I thought he was cute,but I was still interested in his younger brother at that time.So needless to say I was pretty much like head over heels for him,and there was also a 3 year age diffrence,but the day he turned me down I decided to try and get back at him and date his older brother who I did think was cute and all but had never thought of dating until that point,but it didnt really work out like I thought,where I thought said guy I liked would become jealous of me being with his older brother and try and win me back or at least show that he actually liked me,but instead his older brother falls for me and we start dating and don't get me wrong I love him but there's a part of me that still wishes his brother had said yes to me because when I see him I think of, what if we we were together,and I also still like him but I can't show my feelings for him cause I don't want to ruin my relationship. So I'm not sure what to do,should I follow my heart and try and talk to him about my feelings for him or should I keep it all in?

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago

    Ur messed up. Leave both of them alone!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I think your emotions and thoughts are a flutter & racing because the real issue is you don't love your fiance - or at least, you are not nearly clear enough on where you stand. This is what the posts above are also pointing out.

    It wouldn't matter if you had a crush or were turned down by a sib if over the course of things you actually fell in love with your guy. So why do these sib issues remain so important, when they are not? The answer sees pretty obvious.

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    You should definitely NOT tell this guy that you are or were ever in love with his brother. Fact is, you don't love your fiance. If you did, as Duke said, you wouldn't wonder about the brother. Walk away from this relationship while you still can and make no mention of his brother. There is no reason to drive a wedge between their relationship just because you made an immature decision.

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  • Duke
    14 years ago

    You ain't in love. If you were you wouldn't be wondering about his brother. Period.

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