Is it bad to approach this many women?

I am a young single Male who approaches probably an average of 4-6 women a day. Each approach is very POLITE although I do subtly show interest with eye contact and compliments ect. If you assume that they are all polite approaches and know that I'm not cheating on anyone, is it still bad to approach that many women?

(Male) its fine 12
(Male) needy and shallow but not unethical 17
(Male) its unethical 5
(Female) its fine 11
(Female) needy and shallow but not unethical 15
(Female) its unethical 3
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  • Boogienights

    Pathetic sleazebag. Women can pick up when men just want to use them. No wonder you approach so many because they all reject you. Youre actually a public nuisance. Women should be allowed to be in public going about their business without jerks like you harrassing them.

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    • How is it being a jerk and harassing to say "Excuse me. Sorry I didn't mean to bug you, but I saw you walking by and I thought you were very beautiful.(let her respond) My name is ..... and then shaking her hand" if that's harrassment to you then I just disagree I guess. Very strongly disagree at that. Probably 19 out of 20 women at least enjoy the compliment even if that's all the more further I get with them. Very few people get creeped out and flee or go out of their way to ignore me. So even if it is harrassment, its harassment that at least 90 percent of women enjoy. In either case, I don't plan on stopping this habit.

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      • Boogienights

        The point is that this not all youre doing at all. You have creepy intentions. You dont care about these women, you just want to fuck them. Theyre merely a notch on your belt. Women dont want to be propositioned every minute of their lives.

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        • But some girls like sex!!!!! I know this may be a novel concept.

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          • Boogienights

            Sure they do but you are objectifying all women because of the way you treat them as nothing more than a potential fuck. Also most women do not want strangers propopsitioning them. You need to grow up. Youre behaving like a sexist pig.

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            • Yep their all potential fucks. And that's what I am to them. If me and her agree on that then I don't see a problem. Casual sex is not immoral in my opinion.

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      • candylady

        Lol nowhere near 90 percent of women would enjoy that. Nowhere near half that number.

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        • My experience disputes this claim.

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          • candylady

            You’re not a woman, and I can tell you haven’t talked to many women about this, so I’m not sure what experience you have that would be relevant. If you’re talking about how women react to you in these situations, I can assure you that the way women are conditioned to treat strange men is generally not reflective of how they feel about the situation.

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            • The experience is the 4-6 women a day, for a few years maybe. Never said I was a woman lol. But it's all about delivery, if I do my very best to come across very politely, it works. How many times have you been approached just like this?

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  • Iszzy123

    I got sick this week and called my dad and he helped me if you got sick would one of these girls come to help.

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    • zarabell

      EXACTLY

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    • What the fuck?

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  • acosta

    Don’t lead them to think that they’re the only girl you’ve approached, basically don’t make them think you’re not a player, most will figure that out anyway, but some might not.

    The only reason why this is unethical is if the girl really likes you and does want to see you again, if she were to find out you do this all the time how would she take that?

    If you’re just trying to hit on them, or see if they’re interested in you for just a bit of fun then it’s not a problem I suppose, ideally you should do this where it’s socially acceptable like when out drinking.

    You’re the guy in this scenario:
    “I met this really charming guy today, I gave him my number, his names Alex.”
    “Funny, an Alex came up to me a couple days ago and tried to get my number as well, what did he look like?”
    Followed by embarrassment and feeling unvalued

    A better way for me to make you understand how they feel is by putting you in their shoes, imagine you’re out and the girl of your dreams walks up to you and you have a nice conversation with her, you build up the courage to ask for her number (or she offers it, to your delight), you’re thinking wow I really want to see her again and hope it leads somewhere, you start thinking... A LOT about how to impress her and where would be nice to say about meeting up again... A few hours later you speak to your pal and you bring it up, he describes to you the same girl... How do you feel? Heartbroken I can imagine.

    Save it for the weekend, public approaches are not meant for what you’re after.

    If you don’t want to feel unethical, maybe start with a pick up line? That way they know your intentions, and if they do actually like you and are just after a fling, they’ll take the bite.

    What you’re doing is what people do when they want a romantic relationship with someone, not a fling.

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    • Really? Not sure I agree with your last statement. I don't think its unethical to do just because it would be embarrassing if I approached two of the same friends. I live in a massive city and travel a fair but for work so that probably has helped me avoid this coincidence so far

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  • RoseIsabella

    You seem like one of those pick up artist wannabes who just wants to get laid.

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    • *gets

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  • litelander8

    I hit fine by accident. Needy and shallow.

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    • If shallow gets me laid more it's worth it.

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      • litelander8

        Gross.

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      • Ellenna

        And does it?

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        • Depends on the environment. If you know what parties to go to and have the right friends then yeah. If your just approaching random women then usually not, at least not at first.

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  • megadriver

    I wouldn't say it's bad, but it's definitely a douchebag move...

    Girls talk... you don't want to be known all over town as that desperate guy that hits on every girl and if she bites, he gets her hopes up, gets laid and then moves on to the next one. That's lame.

    If easy sex is what you are after, go chase exchange student girls at universities. Exchange student for 1 semester is basically the fancy way of saying sex tourism.
    Just don't be a dick about it.

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    • Lol that seems way more of a scumbag than what I'm doing.

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  • Pikana

    Nothing wrong with it as long as you're not being a sleaze bag and girls you do hook up with know what you want in the 'relationship'. Like if you hook up with 3 girls in a day but all of them know it's just a hook up then no harm no foul.

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  • zarabell

    you seem like an arrogant prik, and I answered that it is.. kinda needy. but you need sex. I get that. people all need to get high on smt, and I think it's actually cool that you can compliment strangers sincerely (even if you have ulterior motive)

    I have a friend very similar to you. my only complain is that he doesn't help me find some, but I have helped him in a wing-man sort of way and I suspect he will do the same for me one day. do you have friends you might go fishing with..?

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  • randypete

    It is normal you are just horny

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    • I wouldn't say horny I just like the game and like variety.

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  • You talk to women? WHAAAAAT??!!!

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    • Yeah I know. Super creepy and objectifying right?

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  • cupcake_wants

    That is a lot of women. Apparently you set out to do this and think about it constantly to do it that much! Are you obsessive? One a day, MAYBE, but that's too much. What is your end goal?

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    • Sex....

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      • cupcake_wants

        Lol at least you are sincere

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        • Some girls just want sex as well. Its a smaller percentage than it is of men though so I have to try a lot of women in order to find those that are into casual sex like me.

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          • cupcake_wants

            Well, good luck to you. It might be better to get a girlfriend or wife though. Unless what you really want is a variety.

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            • So far, that is what I want. Down the road maybe I do want a wife but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

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  • ellnell

    I think its fine as long as you don't lead anyone on. However it may come off as kind of a fuckboy-move. I don't tend to take men who flirt with and approach a lot of women seriously and I don't see them as relationship material.

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    • Well I don't want a relationship right now so that's not of my utmost concern.

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      • ellnell

        Then go for it but be aware of the effect it might have on your reputation if you're very flirty with many different women.

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        • I am aware and it's a risk I'm willing to take to get sex.

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  • dimwitted

    When you find someone you want a long term relationship with will you honestly tell her how many women you have been with?

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Shallow and needy but those aren't nessecarily a bad things. If you just want sex that's cool. I would also recommend a more quality of quantity approach if I were you.

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    • Cool.

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      • blinkeredharlot

        Lol you answered your own post then answered yourself on anonymous but got defensive with anyone else who said the exact same thing you admitted.

        You gonna claim it's a joke again? Lmao

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        • I'm a little confused. Are you accusing me of being DNM?

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          • mauzi

            There is actually an exploit of this website that proves you are in fact DNM (as if it weren’t already obvious from your writing), and I can reveal it to anyone who’d like to dispute that. Why you hiding?

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            • How? Why am I being compared to a fucked in the head 20 year old? That's not very flattering.

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  • CozmoWank

    I guess it all depends on what you mean by "approach".

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    • Talk to her and show interest, usually with a compliment. Then small talk to see if she's at all warming up to me and then if she is I ask for contact info.

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      • CozmoWank

        Nothing wrong with talking to girls, but if one is already interested in you why are you trying to get contact info from others?

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        • Because just because a girl is interested in me doesn't mean where boyfriend and girlfriend and its cheating if we go with anyone else. I like sexual variety and so I never let girls get too attached to me because then they would be upset if I was cheating. Its complicated.

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          • CozmoWank

            I guess so.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Honestly it just seems needy and desperate. I find both traits undesirable in a partner.

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    • Yeah but each individual I approach doesn't find out I approach this many women.

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      • Cuntsiclestick

        Just try not to mess up your reputation. Women gossip. You'll be known as the desperate needy guy every woman needs to avoid and you wont get any sex after that. Not worth the risk in my opinion.

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        • I understand your concern, but I live in a big ass city and I travel a lot for work. That plus I usually go for the shy girls.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    hey cupcake...

    wanna be cream filled?

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    • No. I'm nicer than that lol

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  • leggs91200

    At least you are making an effort.

    Yes you could sit around and do nothing in hopes someone will ask you out. However, the rare women who approach men are typically the grotesque ones that nobody wants to be with.

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    • Yes excatly, I avoid women who come after me. Their shallow gold diggers or are tryna be the next #metoo lie and get me behind bars.

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      • leggs91200

        If they approach you, regardless of their looks, I doubt they are trying to be the next "me too". I refuse to use that damn symbol.

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