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So 10/11 years ago my dad died and I was about 4 and when I think about it it doesn’t really affect me. Do this make me a bad person
Young children can adjust pretty quickly to all sorts of things that are very traumatic when you're older.
From your perspective, your father died a very long time ago, and you grew up with it being normal to not have him around. Also, as a four year-old, your knowledge of your father was very limited. If he hadn't died back then, but you instead grew up having a close, loving relationship with him and he had dropped dead yesterday, you'd almost certainly be feeling shocked, confused, and devastated right now, and it would take you a long time to get over that.
People can't function if they're constantly filled with grief over those who have been in their lives and died. Adjusting and accepting what's happened is a normal coping mechanism.
You may find that as you get older, you become more curious about who your father really was. You might wish that you had been able to get to know him, and there might be times when you suddenly feel sad that he's not still around. All that would be completely normal too.
You were a child. You barely knew him.
It's normal you're not affected, as far as you can tell he was never there.