Is it bad?

I've never done anything. I mean ANYTHING at all. I'm 18 and getting ready to be off to college and I've never even been on date, kissed a guy, barely danced with on guy, drank,smoked etc. anything you can think of I probably haven't done. The closest I got to sexual interaction was when one guy said give him a hug and he grabbed by butt.
I mean guys have been obsessed/after me since like at least eighth grade!

I mean if you just look at me you wouldn't think anything i said above. But when ever I realize a guy likes me I shy away/avoid him/and then hope that he talks to me.

I'm always telling my sisters to cover up and two days ago my sister called me a "prude". I acted like I knew what it meant but I didn't. I looked it up today. Some definitions that define me are combined: I'm self-conscious about what other think of me;I'm too afraid to even say anything sexual;I'm too afraid to flirt with the opposite sex but I'm not lesbian (most of the time-but when I do realize what I'm doing I abruptly stop). I'm not religious.

I am lonely and have like no fun. I talk to guys and other people at school but then go home and barely do anything.
Is it bad to be prude especially since I'm going off to college?

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  • omgalexalex

    definately not normal.

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  • lurvejazz

    18 isn't old, you still have many opportunities in the future to meet a right and decent guy. Those sexual "interactions" are not good for you, so its good that you haven't engage in any yet.
    its okay to be shy, just try to open up abit and as long as you are happy with the current way you lead your life, why bother about what other people says? right? :)

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    • I'm 19 now and I'm 20 in november =(

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  • TheJudge

    Virgins are rare, valuable, and precious. Don't throw it away for nothing.

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    • Nattie001

      So true

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  • rockhudson

    You go girl!

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  • jemyi

    believe it or not im pretty much the same way but im a boy it sucks but life turns after a while dont give up

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  • TehPurpleOne

    Nothing is really normal any more. Don't let it bug ya. ;)

    I'm 19 and I don't drink, and I don't party much, but I still find ways to enjoy myself. I'm just being me, and in the end, that's what and who you are. Do stuff you enjoy. :) There's nothing wrong with being shy, but it couldn't hurt to open up a little bit to people. :)

    Meeting strangers can be good, but you gotta be careful with that, too. It usually depends where you meet those strangers, too. Go somewhere that involves class, or with culture, like maybe a museum or a park, or you could go to a friends' party that doesn't involve drinking or drugs.

    Now sex... That's a big thing to be getting into. You have to make sure you're absolutely ready for it, so I suggest you do it with someone you trust, have feelings for, and care about, especially if it's going to be your first time. Also, make sure you're protected. No glove? No love.

    But yeah, I don't think you should seriously worry about this. Surely, things can get better. :) Just be yourself, and don't give a flying fuck about what others think. It's your life. Not theirs. :)

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  • purple12345

    omg im the same person, cept i drink here and there, but other then that...thats it.ummm its pretty normal,your probably just not exactly ready for anything. once u settle it and ur find your comfort zone youll be ok. im actually 18 too...and i dont think im normal cause im the only one left out of all my friends who hasnt done anything, cause im to shy and scared like you, but eventually ill overcome it...and eventually youll overcome it

    BTW YOUR NOT PRUDE

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    • And why is it expected that we "do anything"? Isn't being "innocent" deemed better in society? Isn't being wild and crazy looked down upon? So why is expected that young people have to be naughty?

      Perhaps,we're curious? But I already know everything's bad and I avoid guys so I never have problems so I don't have to find out from experiennce what not to do. I hate my life =(

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      • cucui

        its actually perspective u need to stop caring what "society" thinks and do what YOU want if u rlly dont want to drink dont but if ur holding back because of what ppl may think mayb u should rethink things,also why dont u try a different crowd to hang out with?

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    • I just want to know: is it better to be a party girl? It feels like people associate party girls as being outgoing and fun and if you're not a party girl (especially if you're pretty-since it's expected) then you're not fun.

      Why do I have to drink? Is it part of growing up? And if so I feel really upset that I missed out on growing up. =/
      It amkes me feel like I don't fit in even more. But I want ti fit in the way I am now not by drinking and havings sex etc.
      And by saying stuff like "oh yeah you'll grow into it once you're comfortable" is like saying yeah ur a loser now but soon you can be like the rest of us if you just drink and lossen up.
      Isn't there any other way to have fun and still be respected with the majority of young people these days?

      I guess I'm just stupid-all the other 20 year olds have already gone through this is high school so there's no one out there to help me.The advice They give me they give to their 14 little sisters (or younger =/).

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  • Heybroyodogsupman

    My brother is going to college and my Dad says he will probably open up when he gets to live on his own for a while, and maybe you will experience the same thing.

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  • I think you are being a bit harsh judging yourself as a prude and that you are just feeling unsettled. OK - you haven't been a "party girl" - so what? You can loosen up a bit and be receptive to opportunities that come your way to have fun or become involved romantically in college. You are young.

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  • AmishPanda

    Haha, used to be just like that. Just think about the signals you're sending from the receiver's point of view. People aren't mind readers and you have to be very clear in what you want. Sometimes they'll say no or stay away from you, just move on, they made their choice.

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  • to_much_to_soon

    hmm wouldnt say its normal, b/c these days its not. Doesnt necessarily mean its a bad thing tho. I know a few girls that were like this (im a sr at SOU), but then once they got to college they went a little crazy (think GGW without the cameras). maybe this will happen to you maybe it won't. I guarantee that you will experiment with the last thing you said in paragraph 3 tho... I know ALOT of girls who have done that ;) anyhoo hope it works out for ya.

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    • but that's exactly what I don't want-to be the stereotypical shy girl who gets to college abd "goes crazy" and plus my sister's a lsut so I don't want to be reminded of her. And I am now in my second semester at college and am 19 and nothing's changed. The drinking "parties" are strange and I try to avoid them.

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  • candycane

    It is totally normal! no need to worry at all, I am the same way and I am a freshman in college now. If you really are lonely, just put yourself out there a little more even if your afraid to. don't be afraid to talk to guys, their just people. and if the don't have anything nice to say about the sweet girl you are, then fuck them. bottom line, just be yourself and just cause your different doesn't mean somethings wrong with you. being different is a good thing.

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    • I do put myself out there some times. But I do get nervous b/c I don't know what any terms mean or haven't seen any of the movies people have see-I generally know family films b/c I never really went out on weekends b/c no one like ever really calls me. =/ I can't relate to anyone else so I revert to just talking about everything I've done or mainly my sisters and family have done and hoping they don't "zone" out like they always do.

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  • JonnyLeBleu

    We'll it's highly depends on how you feel about it. and by what i read you are not happy about it. so it's NOT normal.

    I have the same story , but i'm a guy and i'm 20... I've never done anything. never kissed never had any relationship, barelly went parting once (don't smoke it kills).

    sex,dating and relationship is a not go, i can't ever talk about it without blushing.

    Sex and dating is just a part of my problem, i'm losing my friends, and getting each day more recluse. And these things are important.

    i went well in school, college and i got a good job, but i have no life at all - what's good in it? i'll die alone?

    i'm not good looking, but i'm normal and everyone who i know and is "average" (i hate this kind of judgement) had had relatitionships of some kind.

    so i started to look the internet for what was wrong with me, because i know being shy is one thing, avoiding social contact is another. I found about Social Anxiety and social phobia, and since then i'm thinking about getting professional help (a psychologist or psychiatrist). but it's sure very hard and makes me very nervous.

    being shy is a trait of many people, but being too shy is a problem. If you're not in my level of shyness yet, move your butt and start living your life!

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    • youruff

      yeah this is real weird. most guys dont like girls like this. i mean dont get me wrong, a lot of guys dont like girls who are way too wild either.. but even when someones attractive, if you find out theyre a complete prude... its a huge turnoff

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    • Ledria

      you should start talking to people. Not everyone is shallow. Im not shallow and my friends are not shallow and where pretty and a lot of guys talk to us but we dont like the hot one because they dont have a good personality. It's good that you waiting because people that are fast is real dirty.

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    • kebabz

      dont be antisocial, get out there and slam some guys that YOU like, but not every guy you dont want to be a prude but you wouldnt want to be a slut either

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  • SUCKIT

    join some clubs or something to get more social experience

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    • I do join clubs. In high school I played at least one sport since 7th grade. I did soccer, cross-country and track. And I did model UN and Ap classes. And I'm in college now and just finished with marching band and am going to play in a jazz ensemble in the spring. So it's not that I don't try to be social it's just that I don't succeed. The major problem is that I talk too much and really fast so after ppl get to know be after they're like She's annoying-but I still want to fuck her. And that makes me sad. Also, I don't make connections with people in general. =[

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  • slackjawedyokel

    nothing wrong with not being a cum bucket for every dude that comes along.Live your life the way you want and ignore what others say.

    and college isnt really the place to start going wild----it costs way too much money to party and fluck out after a few semesters.

    youre young yet.lots of time for sex.and when you do meet the right guy he'll appreciate that you havent fallen into bed with every guy that looked at you.

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    • cucui

      lmao cumbucket
      its not that bad but your pretty set in ur ways now ur an adult sooooo idk a major turnaround in personality is gonna b kinda hard
      im lonely too :P (hint)

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  • I remember when I was in school all the girls that the guys were after in middle school took two routes when they got to highschool.

    They started dating a senior and kept continuing like their shit smelled like roses and never had anytime for anyone their own age.

    Or

    They became complete whores screwing every one they knew who was considered "Cool" and 99 out of 100 of them were bi-sexual even if they really were not they were just to be cool at parties then after they had been passed around by every guy in the school they would move on to another school (while still attending the same one this would usually happen by the start of 11th grade) and you wouldnt see them anymore because they would be getting passed around by guys from our rival highschool so sometimes if you were lucky you would see them sitting in the back of some kids truck at McDonalds getting ready for a night of hard fucking. Oh yeah then the last thing you would ever hear about them is they caught some STD.

    Yep.

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    • james1990

      you forgot to mention pregnant too with an STI not good

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    • There called STI' now xD

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      • lk4me

        In the UK they're called STI's. when i lived in the US in 2007 they were still being called STD's.

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