Is it a turn on/turn off if your girl speaks up while she's jealous?

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Oh kay...so most of us have dealt with this in relationships where the girl speaks up because she's jealous/suspicious about something. According to the guy, she looks crazy because she's creating scenarios in her head that don't exist. However, I have been so disappointed by guys over the past year and not just guys i've been involved with. But they show how they cannot be trusted. So those little things like not texting the whole day, acting indifferent one night versus other nights, etc really makes us concerned. They say "when a girl asks you for the truth, you better tell her the truth because shes not asking to know cause she already knows the truth." SO TRUE. I had asked my bau if he was talking to anyone else since we aren't official so I suspect him to feel free to talk to anyone. This was after I found out he was messaging his ex-fling with cute things while with me. He said no and called me crazy like wow you're making me crazy by not admitting it. I watched him lie and it's so irritating but the why do I go on? I had to care/love this one. I normally walk away from these worthless situations because I'm not the jealous type but he has brought that side of me. I have confronted him about a lot of little things and yes I feel like crap looking like those clingy crazy girls but I can't help but stand u for myself and let him know I care and I am NOT someone who he can walk all over. So I was wondering, is it a turn on or a turn off when your girl confronts you when she gets jealous/suspicious? or would you rather have someone who is just hiding in the background and looking weak not speaking up? Little things like "why haven't you texted me all day and last night?" "why don't you show me on your instagram or snapchat?" might seem crazy but they are the root of really big concerns. At the moment, I want to confront him about those two especially how we have come so far. But like I said, I am afraid he's going to look at me crazy and possibly call it quits like he has before but he's come back to me. I don't want to lose him so I hold back a little but still confront him.

turn on because it shows she's strong and cares 10
turn off because she looks crazy so she needs to be quiet 16
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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Obviously it's not going to be a turn on jealousy isn't a good shade on anyone but if you have your reasons to suspect something's up, then you have a right to feel this way.

    Getting jealous doesn't show you care it just shows you're hurt, you're in the dark and you want answers. But look you're not going to get the answers you're looking for, your bae is just another dude playin some games. If you really want to stand up for yourself, have some respect, and bail on this nonofficial relationship, because trust me girl you aren't the the messiah you're not changing his ways. He will remain shady with you and you're going to get more and more jealous or you're going to bite your tongue and hold back the tears when you find out he's slipping the dick to his ex-chick.

    So you choose what your worth is and you choose if you want to put up with someone who isn't going I grow a conscious and suddenly change his ways, and when he comes pawing back to your door it's just because he's lonely and he wants someone for the night or the week or month but eventually he's going to get tired of you and ignore you and lie and use you and you'll be back here.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      *paws at ur door and sounds sad* Meow meow, MEEEEEEOOOOOOÔW. :'3c

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  • bleach_baby
    9 years ago

    If you're not actually going out he IS free to message other girls, you aren't his girlfriend. Instead of getting jealous and pissing him off, just ask him what the deal is with you guys, and say if he's getting with you, you don't feel comfortable with him seeing other girls even though you know you're not official yet. If you need something you gotta ask for it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah you're right. I've been meaning to tell him that even if were not official, I don't want to share him. Were dating and getting to kno eachother before it gets serious. I'm uncomfortable telling him what to do since I'm not his Gf but I'm even more uncomfortable being with him while he's also interested in other girls. I just need to kno from him hat he's all mine and he's all for me and I won't take these small things personally.

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  • davesumba
    9 years ago

    Fuck jealous bitches. A 100% deal breaker.

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  • Dream_Killer
    9 years ago

    I like it when my boyfriend gets jealous over me when another guy talks to me. Of course, he rarely gets jealous because I rarely talk to people. especially guys). It's just really cute and to me its a sign that he cares. But that is just me and I am not normal. :p

    I can see why you would want to confront him in your situation however if you guys aren't exactly in a relationship so it's not so surprising if he was talking and flirting with other girls. Maybe you should move on?

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Jealousy in that sense, even when valid, isn't attractive. It soooo pisses me off when the woman im with starts trippin because I didn't answer my phone, or thought I was checking someone else out, or thinks I'm.cheating on her because I don't wanna have sex one night.

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