Is it a compliment or an insult?

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People often tell me that i am better then what they first thought of me. Or they did not expect me to be this good at particular task. Or i give a bad first impression compared to what i am capable of doing.
But yesterday it was repeated thrice by a person in uni. I was a bit shocked when that person said it, but i did not know how to take it because that person was smiling and trying put it out like a praise.
Now should i take that as a insult or compliment?

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  • .Yourmindisfuckedup.
    7 years ago

    Punch him in the mouth,and see if he is still smiling!!

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Sounds like people underestimate you

    Dont worry about it. Let people have their opinions. Just be you

    I've gotten underestimated. I dont care haha

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    It's an insult.

    They think they're complimenting you, but it's just a nice way of saying, "Wow, I thought you were going to be a piece of shit, but you proved me wrong!"

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    • Kawazniak
      7 years ago

      You must have shown something that made them think that. Otherwise they don't. For example if you wear a nice business suit, comb your hair properly and all that, everyone will admire you ( or jealous, it's just people ). But... If you wear a torn t-shirt with sandals to an office, they'll think you're a pathetic loser. It's common

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  • Decorum
    7 years ago

    Depends how they say it, I suppose. If they have a sarcastic and smug tone it obviously is an insult, but if there is genuine surprise in their voice it is a compliment.

    Generally when people throw positive words like "good", "better" and such it is a compliment.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    I would ignore it even if they were being 'smart' . Take it with a grain of salt and don't worry about it. It really is a hard situation to judge though without context and tone. You are the best person naturally to discern these nuances because you were there. Repeating something 3 times as you state above does sound a little strange or it might of been completely innocent. Ultimately, just do your best in life and use your own intelligence to judge what's really going on.

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  • Lost123
    7 years ago

    Humble

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  • Lost123
    7 years ago

    I read the first 3 lines,thanks.

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    The first thing to point out is that first impressions are almost entirely physical. If you're a girl and you're attractive, you might come off as a bimbo.

    Otherwise, it's likely you're unattractive—people think less of ugly people. It's not right but it is reality.

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