Is is normal to be hurt like this?

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Im in love with a man who doesnt belong to my race and religion.I met him 2 years ago and since then i couldn't imagine a single moment without him.I love him with all my heart because i found in his person everything ive dreamed of.He's kind,smart,caring and he loves me so much.His parents didnt agree with this relationship we have(he's mature enough to take his own decisions(25yo) but letting the parents decide its a tradition and its something very normal in his country.And i suppose u know which country im talking about in here).The parents want him to marry a girl they choose as an arranged marriage).He didnt agree at the beginning but now they are engaged already.
I made so many sacrifices for this man,i converted to his religion,adopted his customs and even learned his language.But wasnt enough for his parents to accept me.He always says that this marriage wont make him happy,he wants to marry me but he's not doing anything for this as he doesnt want his parents to suffer because of him.So hes ready to marry the one he doesnt love.

He wanted us to keep meeting in secret and live our love story but i told him that i dont want to feel guilty if someone will find out and its better for him to leave me as all i want to know is if hes happy and thats wat i wish him)Because when u really love someone it doesnt matter what u sacrifice.THIS TIME I SACRIFICED MY HAPPINESS.I never said i hate him that he made my life so miserable,took all my hopes and happiness,because its hard to love someone so damn much and give him everything u got and that someone cant sacrifice for you at all.
I dont know how will i move on..i really dont.Its so hard.Is it normal to give so much to the one u love ??

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  • BrokenHeartz
    14 years ago

    This is only my opinion,

    If he really loves you, its either he'll fight for you or set you free. In a relationship, its not all about give, you also need something in return. You can give anything for him, your happiness, you love, your time, but isn't it unfair if he doesn't give what you deserve? You should fight for him as much as you can. If you weren't able to stop it, its not your loss. A person who doesn't fight for your love does not deserve your love. This man you love may be unique, but remember, this man is just an extremely small percentage of the human population. You'll eventually meet someone, who would fight for love along side with you. No man can be exactly like the other, but thats what made everyone special. Giving and taking chances, giving and earning trust, thats what love is all about. If he said that he loved you, tell him to fight for it, cause even though I'm just 15, I'm fighting against my parents for the person I love and that person doesn't even feel the same way for me. Always remember that love isn't about letting someone free, its about how you hold on.

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    • Lavali
      14 years ago

      Thanks brokenheartz,your words really touched my heart in a good way,and I find them extremely true.Wish you the best of luck with your love story.Love is the most wonderful feeling that we can experience,no matter of age.(because i know u said you're 15).Best of luck again!

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Off topic but I have to say it...wow what a mature 15yr old!!!! That's exactly what I would tell you with my 31 years of experience!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    yeah of course it is. love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. you love him and he loves you isnt that enough? even if you arent together isnt that enough to make you happy? ..isnt that one of your happinesses? just because you wont be able to become one heart that dosent mean the love will fade so why cant this love instead of sacraficed be rejuvenated in your heart forever. you shouldnt have changed your identity for him.. or anyone its what makes you you and he fell in love with you not what you could become for him.. you let him go huh. hey you know what they say if you love someone let it go. if it comes back to you its yours forever if it doesnt then it was never meant to be.. he wasnt meant to be the one where your lifes -breaths find refuge in his heart.. theres someone who waiting for you somewhere please think of this as baddream and wake up.. u deserve much much more.

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  • alexisfreak
    14 years ago

    You should give a piece of your mind to his parents. They should know how you feel. No offense to them, but a guy should decide who he wants to love, not his parents. That's like my parents picking a girlfriend for me. It is not going to be a good girl. Same for him. Why don't they pick you? Why do they hate you so much? You should ask them, instead of writing about it on some website. Talk to them and find out more about why they do not like you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      thats simple alex.They said that they will never agree with this relationship because their son is indian and im american(not as good as an indian girl is).I totally disagree with this conception,but they STILL seem to keep the same opinion.They want whats best for him(thats wat they say)and a "non-indian"is not a proper choice for their son(even if they know all my damn sacrifices made for him,they refuse to accept).N ps.yes, i have talked to them so many times..without any results

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