Is is normal that my boyfrind doesn't want to have sex anymore?

Maybe he's doing someone else. Just a thought.

I'm a 27 year old bloke who got promoted 6 months ago, and i haven't had a lot of sex with my partner since. We have had serious conversations about it this issue, and i'ld like to offer you my perspective.

First of all, it is completely reasonable for someone to be too tired to make love in the evening past 9.30-10.00pm - especially when they need to wake at 5.30am in the morning to get organised for work. My question to you is, have you made an effort to make love to him when it suits both of you? Sexy Lingere is awesome, i wish my wife rocked it more often. but 11pm on a Wednesday night? ridiculous. I may as well be a zombie.

We have a young child - do you? if so, consider him/her a libido killer.

Does he say he loves you? do you have conversations about your future together? buying a house, getting married, having kids? if so, disregard anyone who is telling you he is cheating on you, because if you have these conversations and he's off boinking randoms in between time, you're dating a sociopath. If you're dating a sociopath, cease to do so.

Have you had open and honest conversations about what turns each other on?

My libido is at it's highest mid afternoon on my days off - funnily enough, when my energy levels are their highest! I'm not remotely gay, asexual or confused - i'm simply working my ARSE off for my family and can't make sex a priority when it may contradict waking up on time in the morning.

PS - consider sensitivity. Is he wearing condoms, does he have a circumcision? these things will reduce sensitivity and should be considered as part of his enjoyment factor. If you catch him masturabting, don't be offended - attempt to join in.

unless you've had serious open and honest discussions about your mutual sex life, you need to consider every possibility. My most important advice would be to engage in serious communication about this in a non-confrontational manner, remember that this is his PRIDE at stake!

Maybe that helps - it helps me a little. I know this is emotionally upsetting for you as well, but there are two sides to this story and you can't assume he's the one that's got it wrong.

Buy some Viagra, grind it up to powder, and mix it into his food or drink. Then offer him a nice relaxing massage to relieve stress and after a while start massaging areas that will turn him on.

Thanks for all your comments. I've already tried the sexy lingerie and the early morning bj/sex. Just once each. The cute lingerie failed because he was way too tired. I'll give them another go and let everyone know how it goes. Mando, Your advice sounds awesome I will try that too!

Dont ask him, dont leave him the choice!

action speaks louder than words! try wearing something sexy and giving him a lap dance or something to turn him on. i know that begging for sex is not a turn on for me. it might be the pressure from his new job that is stressing him out and making him distracted. have a romantic weekend away to get the fire going again.

He is cheating on you.

The same EXACT thing happened with my boyfriend and me. I finally talked to him about it and he told me he wanted to be with other women. It was hard to handle but the fact was, that was what he wanted. I told him he could have anyone he wanted but instead of fulfilling his wants, he stayed with me and fought his emotions on the subject. Today we are happily married and he stays with me and only me. Just something for you to think aboutt...

Help relieve some of his stress with a bj. Except dont finish and lure him into sex.

Maby hes found a new partner!

I will sleep with you

i've been in your boyfriends situation. sometimes things just get too "normal" and the excitement is all gone. my girlfriend and i went from having sex several times everyday to once in a few months but i was taking care of my needs on a regular basis. it was just that it was too routine for me and that excitement that we had in the beginning just went away. eventually we mixed things up, started having sex in different places, got some toys, some porn...whatever it took to give us both back that "hot" and "dirty-flirty" vibe to things.

Ha ha ha every one knows what a men is like and they love there sex so come on girls get a bottle of cop on , if he is not doing it with you then he either have no interest in you or some thing else is going on :( PS or women what ever sex you are in to , this goes out to

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FUCK ME, Krakatoa should write a fucking book or become an agony ant. Keep it short you boring fart.

If you need more sex get a sex toy & leave it in the bathroom so he finds it he will soon be by your side using the toy and playing with you or watching you use it to turn him on.

Of you both enjoy masturbating try doing it to each other and leave the sex for a while he can buy yo a vibrator and you buy him a fleshlite talk dirty to each other and try telephone sex when one is at work ant the others at home masturbating. Nothing to loose everything to gain

i agree he is cheating on you, same thing happened with me and my ex

i will bet anything either you have gained weight or he has.

you are boring the hell out him girl, isn't that obvious. when he gets home get a leather outfit and a whip. Snap that whip and order him to start lapping. After you have a few orgasms just walk out, see how long it will be before he wants to tear your clothes off

There are a lot of reasons why couples stop having sex. The problem is, when you stop having sex the relationship tends to slowly crumble.

I have herd a lot of couples that have stopped for a number of reasons. They had kids and don't have time any more, there love life got boring and one or both lost interest, one or the other stopped being attracted to there partner, there lives got busy, one or the other got scared of pregnancy ect.

You have identified a problem in your relationship but it takes two to fix it. Hes not working 7 days a week. Plan 1 or 2 days a week to reconnect and get your sex life back on track or face the potential of a break up.

If you have those 1 or 2 days set aside and he still wont come to the table to fix it, there's obviously some other back ground issues going on. Cheating, lost interest, lost attraction and its time for you to move on before you go crazy.

You should consider chemistry. There is a very chemical reason not only for that puppy love we have at the beginning of a relationship, but also why we lose that level of interest after about two years. The truth is that our emotions are determined by chemicals. When they stop fizzing, so do you. I've learned to just expect my relationships to end about every two years, and losing the "white pickett fence" idealism helps me to appreciate what we had and not dwell on what was lost.

To all off ye your husbands sounds gay to me , why I say this because I was in the same situation ! I myself use to tell my wife most of what ye are all saying on tell I admitted to myself I was gay so we got divorce ! so maybe ask your husband about is he gay ! there are a few ways to know if he is gay 1 no interest in you 2 check your web go to history to see what he's been looking at 3 check messages on he's phone I am sure by checking this out you will find something I am sorry to say .

Don't do the Viagra or any other sneaky things like that. It's just wrong. Communicate with him and try to get him more involved in it. Try to explore things. Your vagina might be too open and might be discomforting or he might feel he has a STD and it might be offsetting. Could have gotten it from a toilet seat or something. And yes, do try to cheer him up with a bj or explore with anal sex. He might be an ass man. Try many different hinge to spice up your sex life.

hmm sounds like hes been giving it to the person responsible for his promotion at work, since u say his behyavior started around promotion time. Id look into that if i were u.

I have this same problem right now. He says his drive isnt there, but he masturbates every day. He says he still loves me and he constantly praises my body and man handles me but when it comes to the act we just dont do it much anymore and when we do its not as good as it used to be. I tried the morning bj and he just said he had to pee, which he did, but then he took a shower and took the cock rings in with him which meant.. pleasure town for him and I'm just here.
My advice... break up with him. Thats what I am planning on doing. I love the hell out of him, but I have needs and its true that once the sex is gone the relationship turns sour.
i talked to him about it.. and he lost his chance so I'm leaving. I think you should do the same.

A couple's sex life is a microcosim of the whole relationship. No sex, no real relationship. You ahouldn't have to lure or trick him into sex. You're not a fluffer on a porn movie set trying to prepare the male actor ready for his scene. If he loves you he should want to have sex with you. There's a good posibility that he's cheating on you.

U SHOULD'VE GOTTEN MARRIED

He's just tooooo tired I think.

Give him a morning bj but don't finish it, leave him wanting more when he gets home.