Is is normal that i love someone i don't know?

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I am 17 years old and I know that I have a hopeless crush on a boy. But it's more than that, I actually feel strong feelings or dare I say it, love, and I hardly know him! We've spoken a couple of times, those have been amazing moments, and he knows who I am, but I highly doubt not as much as I know who he is because I have stalked the absolute life of him, and I am in love with the person he is, his sense of humor, the way he smiles, talks etc.I know it's love, because there is simply no other word to describe this feeling, like my whole body instantly reacts whenever he's around, I get all "butterflies" inside. I am also way out of his league, he could probably get any girl he wants so my whole obsession is hopeless and yet it just gets worst, like I am obsessed, border line psychotic. I am constantly thinking of him. I just stare at pictures of him, stalk any last detail of him, imagine a life with him, is any of this normal?????????

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Meh.

    It's not love just a crush with severe infatuation.

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  • Aliceee93
    10 years ago

    You're in love with the thought of him. Not truly in love if you've barely spoken or not got to know him properly. Simply a crush.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    "I just stare at pictures of him, stalk any last detail of him, imagine a life with him, is any of this normal?????????"

    The degree determines how normal it is.

    It's normal to have a crush, it's normal to be interested in the details of that person's life and to imagine being with them.

    It's not normal spending every waking moment obsessing over him and stalking him and carving his name into trees and your body and calling his phone but not saying anything when he picks up just so you can hear him say 'hello' and putting his facebook pictures all over your walls and telling people you and he will be married someday and threatening any other girls who talk to him or are friends with him and wanting to have tons of his babies.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    It's just a crush, honey. They come and go.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    This is going to sound crazy, but to a lesser degree I have something similar to what you experience. But I know it is just a crush!

    Every now and then this guy will come through my line (I am a cashier), and it takes my breath away when he does. He is not even very handsome, but something about him makes me instantly happy. The moment I saw him I had this crazy reaction...The sight of him fills me with joy and I can't stop smiling.

    He even gave me his phone number, but that is when I discovered he is 27...I am 18...its not tooooo awfully bad, but enough to make me not go on a date with him. BUT I do not stalk him, and he does not dominate my thoughts.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I got so excited when I read this because I have a very similar situation! I work a food service job and my crush has ordered from me a few times. The first few times I didn't notice anything but one day something changed and I knew I was crushing on him. You say your crush isn't really handsome and neither is mine, but I still feel strongly about him. I know it's NOT love, but I still get this insane feeling of joy and excitement when I see him. I don't even know his name LOL. I don't usually use the word "amazing," but that's how I feel when I see him.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I instantly turn beat red. It is so embarrassing!

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          Yeah, it is... One time he came over and I hid behind this pillar while the other employee served him, haha. I've only ever walked by him once, and I stared at the floor. But you said yours gave you his number, that's impressive!~

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Funny story XD my other coworker kind of liked him too but she didn't show it as much as I do. My manager found out she liked him, and told him all about her feelings for him. And his mind instantly flashed to me instead...so he thought she was talking about me.

            long story short, she told me and I was embarrassed. the next time he came in I tried to slightly clarify the identity mix up, and then he randomly asked for my number and if I wanted to come over to his house for pumpkin pancakes one day haha.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              So he thought your manager was talking about you? That sounds like one of those situations where you think "How did I get into this....?" Hahaha! But I don't think it was random that he asked for your number. How did you answer his request?

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      What about this scenario, cause im a HVAC service tech. And I get called out to work and service peoples heaters. But a few times, like just recently last week, I will met someone that I seem the have an instant draw toward. And often end up talking with them like 40 min over what I normally talk to with customers. And would it be weird and creepy, or cross some line to try to ask for a number?

      Mean I feel sorta weird, like ur alone with some guy, that working for u, then suddenly he asking for ur number. I mean she was a really chill girl, probably a few years older then me and I think she had recently moved up there, and I been happy just being friends and getting to know her. And I think he may had been into me a little, there wasnt open flirting so it harder to tell if she was just really nice or maybe Interested.

      blahhh, but the moment has passed anyway, at this rate poor shuggy will die alone with 20 cats and dogs as his "children"

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        That is a tough one!! I am sorry the moment has passed.

        I would be wary of your animals if you die alone with them! with no one around to feed them... D:

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        • shuggy-chan
          10 years ago

          they will just eat me

          "true story, i read that this did actually happen to some only lady in a town near where i used to live that died with like 20 cats and no one realized for weeks... gross

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Some honest advice is the more often you experience those scenarios the better you recognize and feel comfortable in them and feel comfortable acting on that impulse without it being awkward or weird, kinda like how public speaking gets easier the more accustomed you are with it.

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            • shuggy-chan
              10 years ago

              Well ma Patt patts, i not shy, at least not when it comes to talking to customers, i can talk and make jokes with them. i did see a few body language hint she might had been digging me, but ultimately i was afraid to overstep that invisible line and/or assume too much. But mehh whatevahs

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