Is is normal or is it me that is wrong?
My wife and I have been married for a little over two years now. I am American and she is from another country. She moved here as a child in an exchange program, she stayed, and we met in college. We fight constantly, over stupid things. For instance:
Last night, I got home from work and took care of her dog. I waited for her to get home like I always do and when she showed up I greeted her with a kiss and asked what she wanted to eat for dinner, eat in or eat out. She wanted to go the gym instead. I said okay, my friend who was grilling that evening had invited me, and i told her since we weren't going to do anything for dinner I would go over there. I leave and go over to the friends house, all guys with one girl who is the girlfriend of the host, and we sat around and drank beer and ate. I stayed for a few hours, and when everyone started to get up to leave I did the same. I went to Wal-Mart to pick a plant and a pot that my wife had requested I bring, and went home. There she is, sitting on the couch with her Ipad. She complains that I go out and drink with my friends. I'm 26 by the way, and I'm not out getting hammered. She says that I never stay home and be with her, my arguement is that I enjoy getting out of the house. I would rather go somewhere and do something other than sitting in my recliner and watch T.V. Usually that is all we do, just sit and watch T.V., go to bed, go to work, and watch t.v. until we go to bed. It is boring, so when I have the opportunity to go out fishing, grilling, ect., I take advantage of it. She says that I would rather spend time with other people, which sometimes is trued when my wife has been grating on my nerves or nagging me about something. Most of the time I try to get her to come with me, to hang out as couples with our frineds, but she jst wants to stay home.
She is always mean to me. I was in the Marines, I actually fought in Iraq, I wasn't some cook or some laundry guy, I acutally fought. She tells me I have never done anything, that I am a loser, and that I am nothing more than a piece of shit and that she is better than me and my family.
Whenever she gets really mad she tells me the marriage was the biggest mistake of her life, and that if it hadn't been for me she would be somewhere better making more money.
I'm miserable, I love my wife, and I don't want to have to divorce her, but I feel like I am getting very close to walking away. I try to take as good of care of her as possible, I buy her almost whatever she wants, I do all the cooking (unless we eat out), I do most of the cleaning, I take care of her dog.....
Am I the one who is messed up? Am I the one that needs to give up being social and having friends to sit at home to make my wife happy? Is it normal for a wife to be like this?