Is husband not paying enough attention to me, am i doing something bad

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My husband and I live apart for right now, due to both being in the military. He doesn't like talking on the phone but when hes on his way to work, he calls me. But lately, Ive been feeling like I'm not getting enough attention. He goes out with his friends, which I should be happy that hes not inside all the time being sad about us being apart (I tend to do that a lot). We had an argument about the attention thing, and he started to tell me the world didn't revolve around me, etc. I try very hard to leave him alone, I know he gets busy and I know that the world doesn't revolve around me but lately we've barely been talking. He always has some excuse as to why he couldn't talk ie left his phone, didn't see my text, etc. No, I know for a fact he would never cheat on me so I know its not because hes giving attention to some girl. But honestly I feel like everyone gets his attention and I don't feel important or a part of his life. I've already tried telling him how I feel but he just gets annoyed or says things like 'sorry I'm not good enough for you, etc'. I'm not sure what to do? Am I in the wrong? Is there anything that I can do that may help me?

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I'm sorry to disillusion you but there's no way you can know for a fact eh wouldn't cheat on you, so it's possible he is or feels distant emotionally for some other reason.

    Step back a bit, don't text or call anywhere near as often, be more detached and find some interests of your own. What you're doing about the situation now seems to be making it worse, so change what you're doing!

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    • liv2dancd
      8 years ago

      You're the first person to give sound advice, thank you. I dont want to become too detached because we do live long distant but I will try to give him more space.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Yeah, and that will leave more space in your life, so be prepared to feel a gap there for a while. just don't panic about it, it will pass, and above all don't react back into your previous trap. Use the extra space for yourself: have fun with friends, take up a hobby, learn a new skill ....you'll be much less likely to obsess about him if you keep busy

        Good Luck and don't worry about the morons on here, ignore them

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  • Miserable
    8 years ago

    Send Sexy pics :-)

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  • kirakirakira
    8 years ago

    Suck his dick more

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    • liv2dancd
      8 years ago

      Only a guy would think that this is about sex. He lives 3000 miles away but we make that area work. I'm not some middle aged housewife that cant take care of my husband. I asked for advice about him paying attention to me, not dick sucking/sex advice

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  • hokisgurl
    8 years ago

    Sounds like you are in a emotional divorce you say he'd never cheat I wouldn't say never .Personally i think your in the right and he's wrong he's either seeing other women heavily into pornography or just wants to be away from you or really busy with his military gig seems like you need to investigate your computer or his phone or laptop history browser and install heavenly eyes its a key logger and whatever he types in you will get a daily report theres other stuff too but maybe invest in getting a porn blocker K9 blocker is good but can be bypassed by phone and there are security setting you can change on his phone and youll have the password he wont be able to bypass. From what I know when husbands act that way there is something in the background goodluck

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    • liv2dancd
      8 years ago

      Thank you but I'm not going to violate his personal space. As naive as it sounds, I dont think he will cheat on me. He has never shown the signs and I married him based on trust. Thats a little much but thank you for trying

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  • dytrog
    8 years ago

    Why do women have such long posts so I don't want to read tem.

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    • liv2dancd
      8 years ago

      Women generally have alot more to say then men, sorry.

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    • bucho's_butt
      8 years ago

      I second that.

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  • TheDentist
    8 years ago

    Well, maybe stop being such a clingy person and realise that your husband needs some time alone, or some time at the dentist.

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    • liv2dancd
      8 years ago

      Yes because living 3000 miles apart isn't enough space...

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      • TheDentist
        8 years ago

        Exactly.

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        • liv2dancd
          8 years ago

          Yep not following you nor the visit to the dentist comment

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          • liv2dancd
            8 years ago

            And if its some sexual reference belittling me that I'm not somehow pleasing him, dont bother replying. Get your head out of the gutter, I asked for advice on one particular subject, not my sex life

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    • Miserable
      8 years ago

      They live apart did u read

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